Yesterday I presented a 2 hour free online training, “Systemise Your Business – Accelerate Your Success”.

One of the blockages leaders face is not having developed a leadership mindset, so we looked at how we can change this.

Question for you, have you ever wanted something and felt completely stuck because something felt like it was in the way?

Maybe you want to grow your business but not having enough people is in the way.
Maybe you want to earn more but not having enough time is in the way.

That’s a conflicted value — when you want something but you feel like something else is in the way.

When you experience this type of tug-of-war, you waste energy. But when you name it, you gain awareness — and that’s where change begins.

The key isn’t to pick one side and abandon the other.
It’s to use a neurological linking technique that links your desired outcome to your conflicted value.

All you need to do is get clear about the outcome you want and ask yourself whether you want more or less of the conflicted value.

For example, “I really want to scale my business but staff resistance is in the way”.

Do you want more or less staff resistance?

In this example, we’ll say less.

Now we can start the linking processes, “How will scaling my business give me even less staff resistance?”

It might be challenging at first to come up with some reasons because your brain doesn’t have a wired network for this – yet.  This is what you are creating.

If you ask yourself the question and then write out 100 reasons to answer it, you’ll start to rewire your brain and resolve the conflict.

No more tug of war.

Outcomes achieved.

This week your task is to identify where you have been torn?

What do you want and what do you think is in the way?

Do you want more or less of what is in the way?

Answer the question, “How will achieving my outcome give me more or less of the thing I think is in the way?

A big shout out to Benjamin J Harvey for his brilliance with this neurological linking technique.

Reply or contact me directly if you’d like to learn more or get some support to clear your conflicted values. You’ll be amazed at how quickly this technique works.

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This week I went for my regular mammogram.
The instructions were clear — no deodorant.

I knew this.
I showered, dried myself and then, without a single conscious thought, I reached for the deodorant and applied it.

“DOH!”
I had to wash it off again.

The force of habit took over.

It reminded me of something a long-term client said recently:

“It’s good to do a refresher with you, Shirley. It’s so easy to slip back into old habits, even though we know a better way.”

It’s true.  Neuroscience tells us that habits live deep in the brain’s basal ganglia, where automatic routines are stored. Once a behaviour is repeated often enough, it runs on autopilot.

Step out of the shower, apply deodorant.

Simple, predictable, efficient.

The brain loves efficiency.

It saves energy by running well-worn neural pathways rather than building new ones.

That’s why under stress or distraction, we default to the familiar, even when we know it’s not the best choice.

The good news is, we can rewire our brains.

Every time we replace an old routine with a new one and repeat it, we strengthen the new neural connection.

Over time, the new behaviour becomes just as automatic as the old one.

The first step is Awareness.
Second is to pause and notice the cue.
Third, choose a better response.

That’s how we build new habits in leadership, business, and life.

This week, I encourage you to take notice of one small habit you do automatically.
Ask yourself, “Does this still serve me?”

If not, what’s one new behaviour you could choose instead?

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