Attention To Detail (WT817)

Attention To Detail (WT817)

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WT 817 Attention to detail

This week our printer packed it in.

We are running the leadership experience so we needed to print handouts etc.

Ross went to Officeworks, armed with a thumb drive and a list of a files.

Ross’ personality type is that of a Driver.

Drivers are interested in the big picture. They aren’t into details. They just want to know what the result is to be achieved. They aren’t interested in small talk.  Let’s just get it done, preferably directing you to get it done.

I was happy for Ross to take on the task because I didn’t have the time.

He left the printing on the table for me to sort.

The black and white copies were perfect. Not so the coloured one.

The coloured copies had a big block of yellow colour running across the centre of the page.

I’ve been working on not being so critical, so I wasn’t sure how to handle this.

“Did you notice the coloured copies”, I asked.

“Yes, they are there”, he replied. “I did them all.”

“Yes, they were there, however they had a big yellow block printed across them.”

“What?”

He went into the room to check.

“Oh!, I had a look”, he said. “I thumbed through them”, demonstrating to me how he thumbed the top left corner of the pages. 

The blocks were in the middle of the page.

I couldn’t help myself, “Attention to Detail” I said.

“Yes”, he admitted.

“Lack of attention to detail costs you. Now you have to go back and do it all over again.”

And he did.

It’s the little things that trip us up.  It’s little things like not taking the extra minute to thoroughly check that can mean hours of rework.

We both laughed.  As a Driver we understand he isn’t into details. It wasn’t really a job a Driver should be doing, so I told him how grateful I was that he did do the job because I have learned over the years,  that the happiest people are those that are the most grateful.

So moral to the story.  Stick to your lanes as much as possible.  Play to your strengths and do work that you are most suited to and be grateful.

You’ll be a lot happier.

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Happy or Willing (WT816)

Happy or Willing (WT816)

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WT 816 Happy or willing

Something I learned from my mentor, Kip McGrath was the difference between employees being unable to do something and unwilling to do something.

This helps immensely when leading and managing your team because it guides the conversations and/or training required.

One of my clients, Mark Kentwell, takes it a little further.

He makes a distinction between being “happy” to do something or “willing” to do something.

I was reminded of this last week, when I was working onsite at a client’s office and I was asked to take a phone enquiry.

“I’m happy to take the call”, I said.

As soon as I heard myself say that, I stopped for a second.

Was I really happy to take the call, or was I just willing?

Truth is, I was willing.

I really didn’t want to take the call because it was interrupting the work I was focussing on.

How often do we say, “I’m happy to <fill in the blank”, when we’d rather not?

Let this week’s thought be an encouragement to you to speak your truth.

Be assertive.

If you’re willing, say you’re willing.

If you’re happy, say you’re happy.

Let’s not confuse the two.

Happy or willing? Write back and let me know what you find.

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I Know I’m Like That (WT815)

I Know I’m Like That (WT815)

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Ross and I were having a conversation and discussing passive aggressive behaviours.

You know the ones; the sarcasm, the “it’s meant to be funny, but it’s really not”.

Without any prompting, Ross admitted, “I know I’m Like That – I can be passive aggressive”.

I smiled. Having been married to him for 36 years, I too know that he can be like that.

Being aware of it, doesn’t mean you’re going to do anything about it.

In fact, the 3 most dangerous words anyone can say are, “That’s Just Me”.

Why?

Because they are making no apology for the way they are and it usually comes when they realise or someone points out that they could behave differently.

You might be agreeing with the statement “That’s Just Me” and quite happy to continue to behave in your ways and that’s ok if those ways are positive toward yourself and others.

It becomes a problem when “I Know I’m Like That” and “That’s Just Me” is used as excuse not to change.

If you think about it, are you being stubborn? Are you making a statement?

Receiving feedback is not always comfortable, however I encourage you, the next time you receive some feedback on how you could change your behaviour, please don’t resist. Take on the feedback, if you want to grow and develop and enjoy even better relationships.

We all have a choice.

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The Best Response (WT814)

The Best Response (WT814)

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WT 814 The best response

Imagine this. It is made up, by the way.

You’ve just received an unexpected phone call from a supplier and they launch into a tirade about how you haven’t paid your last three invoices.

You know you have.

They are questioning your integrity.

You have a policy of paying suppliers on time.

You start to explain. They cut you off and talk over the top of you.

They are not listening.

They are accusing you of trying to rip them off.

They start yelling at you and abusing you, calling you all sorts of names. (Very unprofessional.)

You reach the point where you’re about to lose it.

And then you remember the Weekly Thought, “The Best Response …. is No Response”.

I admit, sometimes it can be difficult to keep your cool, but keep it you must.

Do not allow yourself to get plugged into their drama.

Active Listening won’t help you in these situations.

You are best to walk away, calm yourself down and then respond when your emotions have subsided.

David Bayer calls it the Primal State when you’re in that fight or flight mode. You can’t think straight. All you are interested in is surviving.

You need to wait until you can get yourself back into what he calls the Powerful State. The state of relaxation and calm. This is the state where you can be creative with your problem solving. You can work through what has happened and come up with a reasonable plan to go back and address it, without getting plugged back in.

Whilst it was a made up example, it applies to any situation where you find yourself getting emotional, angry or frustrated.  Give yourself some time.

The best response, at this time, is no response.

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Don’t Start Your Day (WT813)

Don’t Start Your Day (WT813)

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WT 813 Don't start the day

This is probably too much information, but it’s relevant to today’s thought.

Most mornings when Ross and I wake up, he tells me “You’re not doing it right”. What that means is that I don’t jump straight out of bed.

I like to lie there and think about the day ahead and make a plan for the day.

I mentally set my priorities and my To Do List.

I see myself completing my tasks at certain times of the day.

Of course my days don’t always go to plan, however they do start with one and in my defence, Personal Development Guru, Jim Rohn, taught us “Don’t start the day before you’ve finished it”.

That may sound counter intuitive, however if you think about it, that’s what Jim is saying.

Plan your day and see it going the way you want before you get out of bed and start your day.

We’ve talked before about the power of visualisation.

This is a form of visualisation.

Mentally see yourself doing all the things you want to do.

Take the time to imagine it, feel it. Feel the sense of achievement as you tick things off your list.

Feel the joy of ending the day having completed what you wanted to.

Now, isn’t that a great way to start the day? Feeling a sense of accomplishment.

Brian Tracy also agrees. Chapter 2 in his book “Eat That Frog” is called “Plan Every Day in Advance”.

The chapter starts with a quote from Alan Lakein that says, “Planning is bringing the future into the present so you can do something about it now”.

Tracy says, “Your ability to plan well, in advance of acting, is a measure of your overall competence. The better the plan you have, the easier it is for you to overcome procrastination, to get started, to eat your frog, and then to keep going”.

How did you wake up today? Did you give yourself a few minutes to plan your day or did you hurl yourself into the day unprepared for what lay ahead?

How will you wake tomorrow?

Remember, “Don’t start your day before you’ve finished it”.

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