They’re Not Ready (WT807)

They’re Not Ready (WT807)

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by | 12 Dec, 2025 | Blog, Leadership, Mindset

WT 807 They are not ready

This week I wanted to scream.

I’d been talking with some business owners about the next Leading Yourself and Leading Others experience, coming up in February 2026.

“They’re not ready”, they kept telling me, referring to their team members.

I was so frustrated because I’ve seen the transformation in people who were “not ready” and who absolutely did not want to do the leadership training and yet they did.

The frustration comes from knowing what is possible for people and not being able to help them see it.

I’m guilty of it myself. Years ago, my mother and father arrived one weekend with a mysterious box which turned out to be a barbeque. 

“We don’t need a barbeque”, we thought.

How wrong we were. We ended up using that barbeque about 4 nights a week.

It was a classic example of you don’t know what you don’t know.

Having invested in personal and professional development all my life, I just don’t understand why people don’t rush to take advantage of what is being offered to them, especially when it can make such a positive difference in their lives.

Still, you can’t force people to do something if they don’t want to do it.

So, I will console myself with one of the topics we teach in the Leadership experience: The Cycle of Change by Prochaska & Di Clemente (who originally devised it in the health industry to understand the process to help smokers quit smoking).

The cycle goes like this:

  1. Pre-contemplation (not ready, not aware, not even thinking about it or in denial)
  2. Contemplation (aware that change might be beneficial, starting to think about it)
  3. Preparation (getting ready to take action, planning)
  4. Action (making the decision, taking some steps toward change)
  5. Maintenance (keeping on with the new behaviours, thoughts or attitudes)
  6. Relapse – what most of us suffer from at one time or another. Start again.
  7. Transcendence – having changed, it would feel strange to “go back to the old ways”. Change is most likely permanent.

If you’re in business you too can apply this to your customer decision making process as well as your team.

Are they ready or are they getting ready?

And if they are getting ready, DON’T GIVE UP ON THEM.

As frustrating as it can be, one day “They’re Not Ready” will turn into “They’re Ready” and then the change can begin.

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The Two Currencies (WT806)

The Two Currencies (WT806)

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by | 5 Dec, 2025 | Blog, Business

WT 806 The two currencies

This week’s thought was inspired by a friend and colleague of mine – Robyn Gray. Thank you Robyn.

Robyn and I were catching up this week. Robyn lives in Victoria so that means we either What’s App or call each other.

This week she shared a video with me that she had prepared for one of her clients.

I loved the message so much, I want to share it with you.

Robyn is an amazing coach, helping businesses with their sales strategies and conversation scripting etc. as well as coaching people to success by focusing on improving their mindset.

In the video she mentioned to her client that there are only two currencies you need, to succeed in business:

1. Relationships

2. Results

BOOM!

It got me thinking and I want you to think about your business or organisation. What are your relationships like?  When we say relationships we’re not only talking about relationships with customers, but also suppliers, other stakeholders and of course your team.

The better the relationships, the happier and more productive your people and customers are and the more your suppliers will do for you.

I’ll give you an example. I was sitting in the waiting room of the doctor’s surgery while Ross was getting some skin cancers cut off his back. An elderly patient came in demanding to see a doctor. He didn’t have an appointment. The receptionist did what she could but there were no doctors available. He abused her. It was painful to watch. She handled it well and I couldn’t help think that most people would shutdown when abused and not be that helpful. Rather, they may be tempted to be unhelpful. 

So currency number one – Relationships. The better you treat people, the better relationships, the more success you’ll have.

The second currency – Results. If you’re in business, your success depends on the results you are able to provide for your customers.  The skin doctor is measured by his ability to stop cancers growing. The coach is measured by her ability to help clients get what they want.  The retailer is measured by being able to supply what customers want.

This week, do a little stocktake.  Are you enjoying the success you’d like and if not, perhaps look to increasing the value of your two currencies.

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Don’t Quit Today (WT805)

Don’t Quit Today (WT805)

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by | 28 Nov, 2025 | Blog, Mindset

WT 805 Don't quit today

“I just feel like quitting Shirl,” she said, wiping the tears away.

“I’ve had enough. I’m over it.”

“I’ve put so much work into this and my creativity is being squashed. I’m at the point where I just can’t be bothered.”

Ever feel like this?

If so, here are a few mindset tips to help:

Remember, some days just feel heavier than others.

On those days, quitting can feel like the quickest way to stop the pain.

But most of the time, we don’t want to quit the goal.

We just want the negative feelings to go away.

Years ago, I attended a couple of Vipassana meditation retreats. One of the things we learned was, “This too shall pass”.

Keep that in mind. Our emotions don’t stay the same.

Here’s another great mantra, “Don’t quit when you’re tired. Quit when you’re done. And you’re not done yet”.

When it all feels too much, and you’re feeling overwhelmed, shrink it down.

Don’t look at the whole mountain. Just look at the next 10 minutes.

What can you do in the next 10 minutes to distract yourself?

I know it’s hard when you feel like this, however, please reach out before you walk away.

Hard moments soften when shared.

A breakdown isn’t failure. It’s feedback.

It’s a message that something needs rest, support or a reset.

You started for a reason. The reason hasn’t changed.

You are stronger than you feel today. Hold on. Pause if you need to.

Just don’t quit today.

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It’s A Thin Line (WT804)

It’s A Thin Line (WT804)

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by | 21 Nov, 2025 | Blog, Leadership

WT 804 It's a fine line

This week I was talking with a colleague about giving feedback to employees.

As he was telling me about his recent success with coaching an employee, I agreed it’s a thin line between feedback that feels like a threat and feedback that feels like support.

“Do this or you’re fired” shuts people down.

It triggers fear. It builds walls. It hurts trust.

Versus, “We’re investing in you because we see your potential.”

This opens people up. It builds confidence. It grows trust.

As we discussed the options, we agreed, both messages talk about change.

Both messages ask for improvement but they land very differently.

One creates resistance. The other creates possibility.

One says, “You have no power.”

The other says, “You have a choice.”

Leaders walk this thin line every day.

At the end of the conversation we both agreed it had been very productive and enlightening.

If you find yourself having to have those conversations, you don’t have to threaten, instead you can empower.

Invite people to step into their growth.

Let them know the decision is theirs.

Remind them that every choice has consequences.

Not punishment, rather consequences.

When people feel threatened, they protect themselves.

When people feel supported, they expand.

It’s a thin line.

I’m curious, which side of the line are you standing on?

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P.P.S. Our next Leading Yourself and Leading Others experience has been scheduled for February 2026.  Thursdays 5th, 12th, 19th and 26th.  Save the dates now.

I Can’t Do It By Myself (WT803)

I Can’t Do It By Myself (WT803)

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by | 14 Nov, 2025 | Blog, Mindset

WT 803 I can't do it on my own

When I’m running the Reset Your Mindset 2 hour presentation, I ask participants to imagine that their goal is to lose weight and then I say, “If I was to watch you eat for a week, do you think your eating habits would improve? If all I did was watch you?”

“Yes, of course”, they reply.

The reason for this is accountability.

It’s one of the reasons we work with coaches. Sometimes they don’t have to do anything other than observe us to make a difference.

So why am I telling you this?

Yesterday I went to see a dietitian.

I finally accepted the fact that I can’t do it by myself.  I have a goal to lose weight and I haven’t been able to keep myself accountable.

And let’s not even go there, if you think Ross might be able to hold me accountable.

So I’m sitting in the consultation room and we talk about what I eat and my diet is pretty good.

My water intake is bad.

I need to double the amount of water I’m consuming.

There’s no diet to follow (yay!).

There’s no calories to count.

I can eat breakfast, I don’t have to start intermittent fasting.

So what’s the catch?

“How is this going to work?” I think to myself, then she says “Before you come back again in a few months, I’d like you to take some photos of what you’re eating so I can see what you eat.”

Well, that’s it.  I started laughing.

She looked at me quizzically.

I explained I’m a mindset coach and shared the above example with her.

She laughed.

“I can already see my portion sizes will be smaller, if I have to take photos”, I said.

“Not yet”, she said.  “I want to see what you’re eating before we make changes.”

Now, you and I both know that I’m not taking photos of big plates of food.

It’s amazing how our brains work.

Just a little observation and accountability does wonders.

Is there something going on for you that you could use some help with?

Perhaps it’s time for you to admit you can’t do it by yourself.

There’s no shame in getting help when you need it.

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