Change Your Password – Reset Your Brain (WT495)

Change Your Password – Reset Your Brain (WT495)

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by Shirley Dalton | 20 Dec, 2019 | Blog, Mindset

WT495 Change your password - Reset your Brain

Have you been keeping up with the latest breakthroughs in brain science? 

I’m absolutely fascinated with understanding how the brain works. 

In summary, your brain as part of the human being operating system is both a goal achieving machine and a Google search engine. 

Imagine you have a project to complete and you go to the library and ask the Librarian for some help to get some resources for your project. 

If she’s a good librarian she’ll be able to direct you to exactly what you want in really quick time.

Well your brain is like that, only it doesn’t filter the information. It points you in the direction that it thinks you want to go because of your beliefs and your thoughts – which is why it’s critical that you pay attention to your beliefs and thoughts. 

If your brain is sending you to the wrong aisle, it’s because your thinking is off. 

You can rewire your brain.  

You can train it to go to the right aisle. 

How do you do this? 

You neurosculpt. You make a new decision and then keep reminding yourself of the new decision and finding more and more evidence for the new decision so that eventually your brain understands the path you want it to take. (David Bayer) 

Think of it this way. Have you ever changed your password and then found yourself forgetting it for the first few days and having to look it up every time you wanted to access your computer or credit card etc. and then after a few days you started to remember it and didn’t need to look it up until you changed it again? 

Your brain is similar. When you make a new decision, it may take a little effort to look up the password until you remember it and your brain starts to cooperate and go in the direction you want it to.

I don’t know about you, but I find this information fascinating. We can change our brains. We can have what we want. We can be who we want to be. 

You just need to change your password and reset your brain. 

And that’s something I encourage you to do, especially over the festive season when you might have some more time to yourself.

Thank you for being part of my community in 2019. As the year draws to a close, I am grateful to have the opportunity to hang out with you and I wish you and your family and friends and colleagues a wonderful Christmas and New Year. I’ll be here next week as well.

Cheers!

It’s for the Client to Decide (WT494)

It’s for the Client to Decide (WT494)

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by Shirley Dalton | 13 Dec, 2019 | Blog, Business

WT494 It's for the client to decide

I was participating in an online group discussion this week with my colleagues from all around the world. 

Some of the group members were moving into coaching and they wanted to know what other people charged for their services. 

It was interesting to see the differences in what people offered and what they charged and one of the newbies, (we’ll call her Valerie), laughed and said, “I’ll need coaching to charge that”.

What followed was a very interesting discussion around pricing and self worth and I thought it might be of interest for you, too. 

“I couldn’t possibly charge that”, Valerie responded to one of the coach’s models. 

“Why not?” asked the coach.

“I’m just starting out as a coach and I don’t know enough nor do I have enough experience”, she replied. 

“It’s not about you Valerie.” 

“What do you mean it’s not about me?” 

“It’s about the value you provide for the client. It’s what we call value based pricing.” 

“What do you mean by value based pricing?” 

“Your prices are determined by the value you provide for your clients. It’s based on the transformation they can have in their lives.” 

Valerie still wasn’t getting it. 

“Valerie, what is it worth to someone to help them save their marriage? What is it worth to someone to help them regain their health? What is it worth to someone to grow their business?” 

“It’s worth a lot,” she said and then continued with “But I don’t think I’m worth it, I couldn’t possibly charge that much.”  

“It’s for the client to decide that they are worth it”, another coach chimed in. 

Boom! 

I had never heard it expressed this way. I was so grateful to have witnessed the discussion. 

How often do we base our decisions in business on what we think of ourselves without considering the value that our products or services provide for our clients. 

This week, I’d like you to take a look at what you or your organisation offers in terms of the value you provide for your clients and ask yourself if you are charging enough.

Show Them the Big Picture (WT493)

Show Them the Big Picture (WT493)

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by Shirley Dalton | 6 Dec, 2019 | Blog, Leadership

WT493 Show Them the Big Picture

This week, I’ve been focussing on leadership. I’ve been creating training videos for the next launch of our membership site as well as the quiz I invited you to take.

It’s amazing to me how things show up at exactly the right time.

Leadership is about knowing yourself and knowing your people. It also requires you to develop great people skills so you can communicate well and influence your team so that they can cooperate and achieve the outcomes.

As I was talking with one of my colleagues recently, I mentioned how important it is to share the big picture with the team.  Some will call this “vision”, however that’s not exactly what I’m referring to.

What I mean by this is to help your team understand how what they do is important to the success of the business. Show them where they fit in to the workflow. Point out the critical tasks and measures they need to achieve for the overall outcome. 

It occurred to me that often the team are taught to focus on the tasks they have to do and they may not understand why the tasks are important. 

If we don’t show them, how can we expect them to think and to problem solve if they can’t see the big picture. 

So, something to think about this week.

Have you shown your team the big picture?

Have you taught them how to think?

It’s a Set Up (WT492)

It’s a Set Up (WT492)

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by Shirley Dalton | 29 Nov, 2019 | Blog, Mindset

WT492 It's a Set Up

When Ross was employed as a Site Supervisor, one of his team members used to joke that it was a “Set Up”, when things didn’t go according to plan. 

This always amused and impressed me because he was able to make light of the situation. 

In my recent studies to become a certified coach of David Bayer’s Phenomenal Coaching Methodology, he too referred to the concept of being set up.

David’s take on the set up is that it is part of what he calls The 4 Blessings of Failure: 

  1. Education (we learn something from the experience) 
  1. Redirect (life’s infinite intelligence is pointing out that we are off course) 
  1. Reflection (time to look more deeply into ourselves and understand more about who we are) 
  1. The Set Up (all of the above). 

You might be wondering where this is going and why I am sharing it with you, so let’s digress for a bit. 

Steve Jobs is often quoted as saying, “You can’t join the dots going forward” but if you look backwards you can always see how perfectly life has worked out. 

Both of these teachings really hit home to me this week as I realised for the first time on a really deep level that my life (and yours) has been one big complete Set Up.

You know my purpose in life is to inspire, educate and support you to be, do, have and feel what you want. I couldn’t live into that if I was like everyone else. I couldn’t travel the world and learn and share with you if I had had children. I couldn’t learn as much as I have and share it with you if I had maintained the same job or lived in the same place for the past 30 years. I couldn’t be there for you if I had a big family that needed support. 

If I look at my life (and yours too) from a different perspective, I can imagine myself on the other side deciding to come to planet earth to fulfil on my mission. In order to fulfil on this mission I’d have to have certain experiences. Whilst I’m here living the experience I don’t necessarily have the insight and certainly don’t enjoy all of them, however if I (and we) join the dots, we can see how life is always working for us and it is one big giant set up. 

So my objective for this week’s thought is to have you reflect on your life. Join the dots. Look back and see how things have always worked out for you, even when you might not have enjoyed the experience and if you’re not enjoying the experience right now, have faith, that this too is all part of the set up and that you are right where you are meant to be and that this too, shall pass.

Take Advantage of It (WT491)

Take Advantage of It (WT491)

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by Shirley Dalton | 22 Nov, 2019 | Blog, Business

WT491 Take Advantage of It

This week’s thought is a reminder to take advantage of opportunities as they are presented.

I host an online membership site, Leading Yourself and Leading Others, which focuses on Developing People, Processes and Possibilities.  (I will be opening the membership site up again in a few weeks for new members.) Every two weeks I host a LIVE Q&A call for members to receive coaching on any topic.

Last week, one lucky member took advantage of the opportunity. She was the only member on the call so she received dedicated one on one coaching for her particular topic.

It was a very interesting and engaging call as we looked at what makes her unique in what she does and how this benefits her customers. What else was interesting was that because she is unconsciously competent with all these skills and strategies, she didn’t understand that these were unique to her. In fact, I find this a lot, that people are totally unaware of their expertise or value and when that’s the case, they are unable to unpack it. It often takes someone objective to hear the value and then reflect that back. If you become a member, you’ll be able to access the recording and see how that could apply to you. 

And speaking of taking advantage, I attended a networking event recently where the host offered a new person the opportunity to introduce themselves and what they do. I immediately raised my hand with a strong and straight arm. What a golden opportunity to get known. As a result, I got to speak with some of the regular members at the end of the meeting who were interested to hear more about what I do and who I help.

What would you do? Do you take advantage of the opportunities presented to you or …

And if your answer is “or”, I encourage you to say “yes” and take advantage of the next opportunity as soon as you can.

Taking advantage of opportunities is a muscle you can develop.

Keep Your Head Clean (WT490)

Keep Your Head Clean (WT490)

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by Shirley Dalton | 15 Nov, 2019 | Blog, Mindset

WT490 Keep Your Head Clean

I’m not talking about having a shower or washing your face when I say, “Keep Your Head Clean” but of course, knowing me, you know that.

Here’s an example to explain what I mean: Two people go for a promotion at work. Neither of them succeed. Max gets depressed and angry and full of negative self talk such as “I don’t know what I have to do to get ahead in this company. Why does this always happen to me? How come I never seem to get the promotion?” On the other hand, Wendy feels disappointed, however quickly shrugs it off and asks her supervisor, “What can I do to be promoted? What do you need to see in order for me to be recognised and promoted?”

Which of the two do you think has the best chance of being promoted in the future, Max or Wendy?

I trust you answered Wendy. Why?

It’s because Wendy kept her head clean. She stayed open to possibility and she asked empowering questions. 

Our brain is like a Google search engine. Its job is to find the answer to your questions, so it’s imperative that you ask empowering questions.

If you look at the questions Max asked, “Why does this always happen to me? How come I never seem to get a promotion?” It’s easy to see how his brain will come up with all sorts of reasons why it’s most likely not his fault; the supervisor doesn’t know what she’s doing, this company is hopeless, you have to suck up to the boss to get ahead; you can see where this line of thought will end up.

When you understand how the brain works and you understand that it is just another organ in the body, you can put it to work to find you the answers you need, to help you get what you want BUT you have to keep your head clean. You have to ask empowering questions. You have to notice when your thinking is off and correct it as soon as you notice it.

That is how you keep your head clean and create the life you want.

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