Who Are You Recruiting? (WT629)

Who Are You Recruiting? (WT629)

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WT 629 Who are you hiring

I’m constantly amazed at how weeks seem to have themes.

This week’s theme is around recruitment.

Because I know my clients and their businesses and their people really well, I’m often asked to profile potential candidates and interview them.

I don’t analyse the candidates’ skills or experience; my clients do that.

What I do is test for a cultural fit with the company and the people they’ll be working with directly, as well as get an insight into who the candidate is.

I use a number of profiling tools, however one in particular provides insights into the candidates’ level of responsibility and accountability and truthfulness to name a few.

It also measures how important it is for the candidate to be seen in a favourable light.

We know that interview alone is the least reliable form of recruitment. Often the job goes to the person who interviews the best and who may not be the best candidate for the job.

The one who interviews the best is usually the one who figures out what the interviewer wants to hear and gives that answer. 

One value or trait that I think is very important in a candidate is their degree of “responsibility”.

Here’s a question I use to test for responsibility.

“Please tell me, in detail, about a time when you failed to achieve an outcome. What happened?”

I’m not really interested in the subject they talk about, rather who they assign responsibility to for the outcome.

For example, they may say, “I failed 3 subjects at university”.

It’s the “because” that I’m interested in.

“Because I partied too much and didn’t do enough study” or “the lecturers were hopeless; they weren’t prepared and didn’t give good instructions”.

Which answer do you want?

Which answer would you give?

Obviously the ones who own up and say they partied too much are the ones we want. Why? Because they are taking responsibility for what happened.

We also know that the best indicator of future performance or behaviour is past behaviour – so there’s a very good chance that if they owned up and took responsibility for the outcome, they’re very likely to own up and take responsibility in their work.

I don’t know about you; I don’t want someone who lives below the line and gets into B.E.D. with Blame, Excuses and Denials.  Mistakes happen. I’d rather be working with the person who owns up to what’s happened, rather than hiding it, lying about it or throwing someone else under the bus and blaming others or circumstances.

Who are you recruiting?

Remember, people get hired for their skills and experience and fired for their attitude.

I’d rather know a bit more about who they because skills can always be taught.

Who are you recruiting?

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It’s Not Happening To You (WT628)

It’s Not Happening To You (WT628)

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WT 628 It's not happening to you

It’s 4:12am in the morning.

I got up especially early to attend an online training.

There was no email with the login details.

I checked last night and I double checked this morning.

That’s odd. They always send an email reminder.

I logged in to the training portal to get the link.

The training date is tomorrow.

Damn! I got up early just for this and it’s not on until tomorrow; that means I have to get up early again tomorrow.

Did they change the date?

I was sure I had it right.

I almost let myself go into the Primal state of psychological suffering.

I almost started to blame.

I almost started to get angry.

And I remembered, “Life is always working for us”, (even though at times it may not be to our preference).

Life happens for us, not to us.

So I changed my mindset.

How is this working for me?

It gave me the time to watch the training that I missed last week (because I slept in and forgot about it) and get caught up before tomorrow’s scheduled training.

It also gave me the topic for this week’s thought and it gave me the opportunity to remind you that Life is always working for us. Life happens for us, not to us.

We can change our mindset in a nanosecond. We can stop the suffering.

It’s a decision you make as to how you deal with the things that happen in your life.

Choose to see that it’s not happening to you. Life is happening for you.

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You Can Convince Yourself (WT627)

You Can Convince Yourself (WT627)

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WT 627 You can convince yourself

This week we exchanged contracts on a house.

We’d been looking for a while and were initially looking for something to renovate as well as develop in a few years.

We hadn’t found anything that met our initial criteria, so we decided to change the criteria.

Within a few weeks, we found a number of properties which met the new criteria.

One property was a fully renovated property although the rooms were small.

Another property had an extra bedroom and bathroom and a better outlook, however it needed a complete renovation.

We were serious about purchasing the first property which was going to auction. Whilst the rooms were small we convinced ourselves it suited us. After all it was fully renovated and there was nothing to do but move in.

When we found the second property, we started to convince ourselves that the first property wasn’t suitable. “The rooms are small. The renovations cover up a lot things and we don’t know what’s under the renovations. The building inspection said there was rising damp in the rooms downstairs and on and on we went.”

Similarly with the second property, we convinced ourselves in favour of the renovations. “We can do what we want with the property. We have a clean slate to work with. The outlook is amazing, we can see the water. It’s on the high side of the street which is what we want.”

Or we could convince ourselves not to buy it. “The driveway is really steep. There’s a lot of work to do and it’s going to cost a lot of money. Trades are hard to get and building prices have gone up so much.”

Here’s my point – You can convince yourself of anything.  We look for the evidence to support what we are thinking.

Michael Singer describes this beautifully in his book, “The Untethered Soul”. He demonstrates how we argue with ourselves (not others) and we convince ourselves for and against decisions we need to make, judgements about people, you name it. We convince ourselves.

Here’s your activity for this week. Take notice of how often you argue with yourself. Take notice of the debates you have when making a decision or passing judgement on a colleague, customer or family member.

In reality nothing external is changing. It’s all in our heads. We waste precious time and energy arguing with ourselves and convincing ourselves only to change our minds again and again.

Let me know what you find. See if you can convince me too.

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Tell Me What You Don’t Want (WT626)

Tell Me What You Don’t Want (WT626)

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WT 626 Tell me what you don't want

If I asked you what you want, could you tell me?

Could you tell me in great detail or would you be vague?

Would you say something like, “I don’t really know”?

Or would you start to tell me what you don’t want?

This is very common. Most people cannot say exactly what they want however most can say what they don’t want. It makes it hard for people to give you want you want or help you get what you want, if:

  1. You don’t really know, or
  2. You can’t articulate it clearly.

So here’s a little exercise you can do, for yourself and/or with others:

  1. Take out a piece of paper or ipad or something to write on.
  2. Have a pen or texta or electronic writing thingame…
  3. Turn your page to landscape.
  4. Draw 3 columns.
  5. In the first column heading write the words “Don’t Want”.
  6. In the second/middle column, write the words “Why not?”
  7. Go to the first column.
  8. List all the things you don’t want, e.g. I don’t want to start work at 6:30am.
  9. Go to the second column.
  10. List the reasons “why not”, e.g. I want to do yoga, meditation, tapping, journaling etc. before I go to work.
  11. Now for the third column heading, write the words “Do Want”.
  12. Look at your list in column 2 and use that to help you get clear about what you do want, e.g. I want to start work at 10:30am so I can get up each morning and do my yoga, meditation, tapping and journaling.

Using the above example, without this exercise, you may have had difficulty saying you want to start work at 10:30am because:

  1. You might feel judged by others for saying so
  2. You might know you want to start at that time and yet not have been clear on exactly why
  3. You just may not have known that the later starting time was important to you, until you discovered the reasons for what you don’t want.

Give it a go.

Tell me what you don’t want and see if that helps you discover what you do want.

Remember, that’s my mission in life – to inspire, educate and support you to be, do, have and feel what you want.

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Shirl Wants One (WT525)

Shirl Wants One (WT525)

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WT 625 Shirl wants one

Firstly, congratulations to our lucky winners from last week, where we celebrated 12 years of thoughts and welcome to our new subscribers.

Last week I attended the Lake Macquarie Women in Business Network and gave a presentation on How Your Personality Affects How Well You Lead.

It was a lot of fun with a great group of ladies.

We went through the REACH profiles and had a giggle at some of the differences.

This week’s thought continues the theme, however I didn’t find the example I’m about to share, as funny.

Here’s what happened:

Ross has a mate whose mum has dementia and yet she is still able to sew. She makes beautiful little zippered bags for your cosmetics or coins etc. and some lovely bags to hold your pegs, which clip onto your clothesline.

Ross’ mate was visiting his mum on the long weekend.

I asked Ross if he could call his mate and ask if his mum had any more peg bags.

I overheard Ross leaving a message for his mate.

“Has your mum got any more peg bags? Shirl wants one.”

Cringe!

“Wow! That is such a Driver comment”, I said to Ross.

“What do you mean?” he asked.

“Straight to the point. No niceties, no rapport, no manners”, I replied.

“What’s wrong with that?” he said. “You do want one.”

“Yes. I do want one, however that’s not the way I would have asked.”

“So what would you have said”, he challenged.

“I would have shown appreciation for him and his mum. For example, hey Shane, Shirl really loves those peg bags that your mum makes. She was wondering if she has some, could you please bring one back for her.”

“There’s no need for all that”, says Ross. “You want one. I asked.”

Oh dear!  That’s an example of the difference between a Driver personality and a Coach personality.

At the end of the day, I suppose neither is right or wrong. We are just different. The important thing is to use the right “language” for the right personality.

How would you have asked? What would you have said?

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I Just Want A Cuddle (WT624)

I Just Want A Cuddle (WT624)

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WT 624 I just want a cuddle

This past week or so has been tough.

I woke up with a sore throat. Ross teased me and said it was because I snored all night.

Very funny!

The next day I had to cancel a lunch. I rang my friend and as soon as I spoke she started to laugh.

“Cancelling lunch today Shirl?”

I thought I had what people were calling the “Superflu”, so I went to get a PCR test to confirm.

I was totally shocked when the results came back to say I tested positive for Covid-19.

Oh boy! Seven days in isolation. Now that was going to be tricky.

We don’t have a spare bed and I wasn’t going to sleep on the lounge. I social distanced myself from Ross and wore a mask, even to bed.

The hardest thing for me was not having my daily morning kitchen cuddle. I also missed holding hands whilst watching TV and generally having a touch here and there.

“I just want a cuddle”, I cried.

It was horrible. No touch for 7 days.

Author and family therapist Virginia Satir once said, “We need four hugs a day for survival. We need eight hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth”.

After 7 long days without any touch, not even a handshake from a colleague (obviously in isolation), all I wanted was a cuddle.

How about you?  Even if “Touch” isn’t your love language. I’m guessing that you too don’t mind a hug when needed.

Oh and by the way, this week we celebrate 12 years of Weekly Thoughts and still haven’t missed one week.  If I wasn’t so sick I’d be doing cartwheels over this.

This year we’re giving away a copy of my book The Loyal Lieutenant as well as a REACH personality profile to 12 lucky subscribers. (You have to be subscribed to receive the thoughts via email to be eligible to go in the draw.)

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