The Power of Gratitude (WT497)

The Power of Gratitude (WT497)

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by Shirley Dalton | 3 Jan, 2020 | Blog, Business

WT497 The Power of Gratitude

As we start the new year, I am reminded of The Power of Gratitude. 

I am so grateful that we took a detour to complete a 6-week systems project in Mudgee, Central West New South Wales.

If we had stuck to our plan, we would have been amongst the thousands of tourists rushing to escape the fires on the south coast of New South Wales and Victoria. We’d already seen first-hand some of the fires on the north coast as we were evacuated a few months ago from Bonnie Hills.

In fact, some of my colleagues had even mentioned some of the “Must See” towns on the south coast, which sadly, are almost destroyed now.

Whilst we send our thoughts and prayers to the people and communities that have been ravished by these unrelenting fires, we must also pay attention to what we can be grateful for.

When we express our gratitude, it raises our vibration and gives us more energy to create the businesses, relationships and lifestyle that we want.

When we operate from a powerful energetic state, we tap into the creativity of the Infinite Intelligence which helps us find creative solutions to problems.

This year, I want to focus on the gratitude I have for the ability to connect to this higher power. I committed to writing in my journal every single day this year; not for any goal or outcome, purely for the joy of writing and helping myself to organise my thoughts and coach myself.

How about you?  What are you grateful for, right now? What will you commit to doing this year, just for the fun and sheer pleasure it gives you?

Wishing you a very happy 2020! May it be all that you want it to be and more.

Shirley

Don’t Dim to Fit In (WT496)

Don’t Dim to Fit In (WT496)

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by Shirley Dalton | 27 Dec, 2019 | Blog, Mindset

WT496 Don't Dim to fit in

Merry Christmas (if you celebrate it), and Happy Holidays if you don’t.

One of my favourite things to do is to read and on Christmas Day I almost devoured this book “Light is the New Black – A Guide to Answering Your Soul’s Calling and Working Your Light” by Rebecca Campbell (2015).  Ross gave it to me and I love the fact that in the book she writes how whomever is reading this book, whether they bought it for themselves or found it on a bookshelf or received it as a gift, our higher self called it forth. Thank you Ross. Thank you Universe!

There was a page in the book that I want to share with you. Headed “Don’t Dim To Fit In”, it really resonated with me and I think you might like it as well. 

“Don’t dim your light to accommodate someone else’s smallness. We are all born to shine big and bright. The Universe is expanding and you are part of the Universe, so expanding is part of your nature. 

“If someone makes you want to retract, notice and slowly back away, they are not for you and you are not for them. Or better yet find it within yourself to expand and shine your light anyway. Flowers don’t open and close according to who is walking by. They open and show their beauty regardless.” (p86)

I love the last two sentences.  

On page 140, Campbell also writes, “The world will only acknowledge you to the degree that you acknowledge yourself.” 

Wow! I must have heard something similar to this, hundreds, if not thousands of times before and yet today for some reason, I really heard it. It landed. So, I made a decision. I’m going to be a flower and let my light shine regardless of who is walking by. In other words, for me, letting go of the fear of being rejected, of not fitting in.  Fact is, I never have fit in. I even wrote about this a few weeks ago and here it is again. I’m trusting I am not the only one who needs to hear this message.

So, what will you do with this information? Will you be inspired to come out of the closet and start sharing your gifts or will you read it, nod in agreement and file it away?

I do believe the Universe is ever expanding and it’s our turn to play, too.

The more you shine your light, the more you inspire us to do the same. One simple way to start shining your light is to do more of the things that “light you up”; the things you enjoy. For me, that is writing. I love to write and so I am committing to writing more, just for the sheer fun of it, without any expectation of where it may go, etc.

What lights you up? Will you commit to doing more of that in 2020?

As we head into the new year, I wish you a year of shining lights. Happy New Year! May it be everything you want it to be and more.

Cheers,

Shirley

Change Your Password – Reset Your Brain (WT495)

Change Your Password – Reset Your Brain (WT495)

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by Shirley Dalton | 20 Dec, 2019 | Blog, Mindset

WT495 Change your password - Reset your Brain

Have you been keeping up with the latest breakthroughs in brain science? 

I’m absolutely fascinated with understanding how the brain works. 

In summary, your brain as part of the human being operating system is both a goal achieving machine and a Google search engine. 

Imagine you have a project to complete and you go to the library and ask the Librarian for some help to get some resources for your project. 

If she’s a good librarian she’ll be able to direct you to exactly what you want in really quick time.

Well your brain is like that, only it doesn’t filter the information. It points you in the direction that it thinks you want to go because of your beliefs and your thoughts – which is why it’s critical that you pay attention to your beliefs and thoughts. 

If your brain is sending you to the wrong aisle, it’s because your thinking is off. 

You can rewire your brain.  

You can train it to go to the right aisle. 

How do you do this? 

You neurosculpt. You make a new decision and then keep reminding yourself of the new decision and finding more and more evidence for the new decision so that eventually your brain understands the path you want it to take. (David Bayer) 

Think of it this way. Have you ever changed your password and then found yourself forgetting it for the first few days and having to look it up every time you wanted to access your computer or credit card etc. and then after a few days you started to remember it and didn’t need to look it up until you changed it again? 

Your brain is similar. When you make a new decision, it may take a little effort to look up the password until you remember it and your brain starts to cooperate and go in the direction you want it to.

I don’t know about you, but I find this information fascinating. We can change our brains. We can have what we want. We can be who we want to be. 

You just need to change your password and reset your brain. 

And that’s something I encourage you to do, especially over the festive season when you might have some more time to yourself.

Thank you for being part of my community in 2019. As the year draws to a close, I am grateful to have the opportunity to hang out with you and I wish you and your family and friends and colleagues a wonderful Christmas and New Year. I’ll be here next week as well.

Cheers!

It’s for the Client to Decide (WT494)

It’s for the Client to Decide (WT494)

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by Shirley Dalton | 13 Dec, 2019 | Blog, Business

WT494 It's for the client to decide

I was participating in an online group discussion this week with my colleagues from all around the world. 

Some of the group members were moving into coaching and they wanted to know what other people charged for their services. 

It was interesting to see the differences in what people offered and what they charged and one of the newbies, (we’ll call her Valerie), laughed and said, “I’ll need coaching to charge that”.

What followed was a very interesting discussion around pricing and self worth and I thought it might be of interest for you, too. 

“I couldn’t possibly charge that”, Valerie responded to one of the coach’s models. 

“Why not?” asked the coach.

“I’m just starting out as a coach and I don’t know enough nor do I have enough experience”, she replied. 

“It’s not about you Valerie.” 

“What do you mean it’s not about me?” 

“It’s about the value you provide for the client. It’s what we call value based pricing.” 

“What do you mean by value based pricing?” 

“Your prices are determined by the value you provide for your clients. It’s based on the transformation they can have in their lives.” 

Valerie still wasn’t getting it. 

“Valerie, what is it worth to someone to help them save their marriage? What is it worth to someone to help them regain their health? What is it worth to someone to grow their business?” 

“It’s worth a lot,” she said and then continued with “But I don’t think I’m worth it, I couldn’t possibly charge that much.”  

“It’s for the client to decide that they are worth it”, another coach chimed in. 

Boom! 

I had never heard it expressed this way. I was so grateful to have witnessed the discussion. 

How often do we base our decisions in business on what we think of ourselves without considering the value that our products or services provide for our clients. 

This week, I’d like you to take a look at what you or your organisation offers in terms of the value you provide for your clients and ask yourself if you are charging enough.

Show Them the Big Picture (WT493)

Show Them the Big Picture (WT493)

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by Shirley Dalton | 6 Dec, 2019 | Blog, Leadership

WT493 Show Them the Big Picture

This week, I’ve been focussing on leadership. I’ve been creating training videos for the next launch of our membership site as well as the quiz I invited you to take.

It’s amazing to me how things show up at exactly the right time.

Leadership is about knowing yourself and knowing your people. It also requires you to develop great people skills so you can communicate well and influence your team so that they can cooperate and achieve the outcomes.

As I was talking with one of my colleagues recently, I mentioned how important it is to share the big picture with the team.  Some will call this “vision”, however that’s not exactly what I’m referring to.

What I mean by this is to help your team understand how what they do is important to the success of the business. Show them where they fit in to the workflow. Point out the critical tasks and measures they need to achieve for the overall outcome. 

It occurred to me that often the team are taught to focus on the tasks they have to do and they may not understand why the tasks are important. 

If we don’t show them, how can we expect them to think and to problem solve if they can’t see the big picture. 

So, something to think about this week.

Have you shown your team the big picture?

Have you taught them how to think?

It’s a Set Up (WT492)

It’s a Set Up (WT492)

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by Shirley Dalton | 29 Nov, 2019 | Blog, Mindset

WT492 It's a Set Up

When Ross was employed as a Site Supervisor, one of his team members used to joke that it was a “Set Up”, when things didn’t go according to plan. 

This always amused and impressed me because he was able to make light of the situation. 

In my recent studies to become a certified coach of David Bayer’s Phenomenal Coaching Methodology, he too referred to the concept of being set up.

David’s take on the set up is that it is part of what he calls The 4 Blessings of Failure: 

  1. Education (we learn something from the experience) 
  1. Redirect (life’s infinite intelligence is pointing out that we are off course) 
  1. Reflection (time to look more deeply into ourselves and understand more about who we are) 
  1. The Set Up (all of the above). 

You might be wondering where this is going and why I am sharing it with you, so let’s digress for a bit. 

Steve Jobs is often quoted as saying, “You can’t join the dots going forward” but if you look backwards you can always see how perfectly life has worked out. 

Both of these teachings really hit home to me this week as I realised for the first time on a really deep level that my life (and yours) has been one big complete Set Up.

You know my purpose in life is to inspire, educate and support you to be, do, have and feel what you want. I couldn’t live into that if I was like everyone else. I couldn’t travel the world and learn and share with you if I had had children. I couldn’t learn as much as I have and share it with you if I had maintained the same job or lived in the same place for the past 30 years. I couldn’t be there for you if I had a big family that needed support. 

If I look at my life (and yours too) from a different perspective, I can imagine myself on the other side deciding to come to planet earth to fulfil on my mission. In order to fulfil on this mission I’d have to have certain experiences. Whilst I’m here living the experience I don’t necessarily have the insight and certainly don’t enjoy all of them, however if I (and we) join the dots, we can see how life is always working for us and it is one big giant set up. 

So my objective for this week’s thought is to have you reflect on your life. Join the dots. Look back and see how things have always worked out for you, even when you might not have enjoyed the experience and if you’re not enjoying the experience right now, have faith, that this too is all part of the set up and that you are right where you are meant to be and that this too, shall pass.

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