Extract Those Limiting Beliefs (WT690)

Extract Those Limiting Beliefs (WT690)

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by Shirley Dalton | 15 Sep, 2023 | Blog, Mindset

WT 690 Extract those limiting beliefs

The other morning Ross and I were lying in bed and talking.

“I wish I could just reach in and rip out all my limiting beliefs”, I said.

“Even the ones I don’t know I have.”

“Why don’t you?” Ross asked.

“What do you mean?”

“Remember, when we did The Silva Method Course with Jeanine Sciacca and she said, the more outlandish and weird, the quicker things work?”

“Yes.”

“Well, why don’t you go into your mental workshop and have aliens or some other weird way  to extract all your limiting beliefs?”

“Wow! Yes. Thank you Ross. I can do that.”

And I did.

I used the Silva Method to go into my mental workshop and I had my team extract two big “blocks” of limiting beliefs; one from each side of my head, just near the Amygdala.

It felt sooooo good.

The blocks were replaced with what David Bayer calls Empowered Decisions because a limiting belief is a decision we’ve made at some point in time. We know how to make decisions, so let’s make new ones.

My new empowered decisions have all been infused into a beautiful pink love-heart shaped cushion and placed into my mind to replace all the limiting beliefs.

I feel so confident. I feel so grateful. I feel so positive.

We all have limiting beliefs, some of which we are conscious of and others not so.

This week I encourage you to listen to yourself and become aware of your limiting beliefs, and either choose to turn them into empowered decisions or follow my lead and extract them altogether.

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How Quick Can You Manifest (WT689)

How Quick Can You Manifest (WT689)

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by Shirley Dalton | 8 Sep, 2023 | Blog, Mindset

WT 689 How quick can you manifest

When we talk about manifesting, what thoughts come to mind for you?

For many of us, it’s the attainment of something we have been wanting.

Whether we’ve consciously worked to create our desire, as in visualising, reciting affirmations, journaling etc. or unconsciously, where we’ve simply decided we want something and then seemingly magically it appears, according to Abraham Hicks, “Manifestation represents what you’re doing vibrationally”.

In other words, you attract what is a match for your current vibration.

Abraham says, “Manifestations are ideas. Thoughts are manifestations. When you’re thinking of something, it’s a thought that’s manifested. You have to be in the vibrational vicinity of it before it can occur and if you’re in the vibrational vicinity when it does occur, it just feels logical.”

Recently I wrote out my affirmation statement of how I want to enjoy my day. For me, the idea of being able to walk along the beach each morning and afternoon is really appealing. I love walking along the water’s edge with the waves lapping at my feet.

To my surprise and delight, it only took a few weeks and that was exactly what I was doing.

Ross and I enjoyed a fabulous weekend at Seal Rocks having hired a friend’s motorhome. Each morning and afternoon we walked along Number 1 Beach, relaxing and soaking in the beautiful sunshine, with the water tickling our toes.

What is it you want to manifest?

What are your desires?

If it’s not happening, maybe it’s time to take a look at where you are vibrationally so you can ensure you’re a match for what you want.

The sooner you match your vibration, the sooner you’ll manifest your desires.

Here’s the link to Abraham Hicks for their thoughts and definition of manifestation. https://youtu.be/m1yF4Gb_Eb0

May you enjoy everything you want and then some, in quick time.

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What If I Train Them And They Go (WT688)

What If I Train Them And They Go (WT688)

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by Shirley Dalton | 1 Sep, 2023 | Blog, Leadership, Mindset

WT 688 What if I train them and they go

This week I was coaching with a client (we’ll call her Stacey). Stacey had some homework to submit from our previous session. She was to create a 5 minute training video using Loom.com.

We’d talked about different ways to train people in previous sessions and Stacey had resisted using Loom. “I don’t like my voice. I don’t want to be seen on camera. I say ‘um’ a lot.”

“Yeah, yeah, yeah. I only know one person who admits to liking their voice. When it comes to being seen, turn the camera off or even better, remember what Frank Kern taught me:

“People are looking at you every day. Get over it.”

So Stacey did.

She submitted the video and we watched it together on Zoom. It was a fabulous video. It was natural. It was authentic; just as if Stacey was sitting next to you, showing you how to do it.

Stacey had even made a mistake in the procedure and corrected it in real time. This was perfect because it showed how easy mistakes can be made and more importantly how they can be easily fixed.

I asked Stacey what she got out of doing the homework.

Firstly, she mentioned that she got it done because I held her accountable to do it.

Secondly, she realised how much time she is going to get back, now that she has a 5 minute training video to show others how to do a job that could take hours of her time, when a senior manager could be working on more productive or strategic tasks.

Stacey also realised that having the library of training videos and procedures means she doesn’t have to continually train people on an individual basis.

“I’ve realised how much time I’ve lost over the years training people who leave the company. I don’t get to recoup that time when they’ve left nor do I get any return on my investment when they leave. I get nothing out of it.”

This is a common experience that can result in a lack of motivation and desire to train new people, which doesn’t help the new team members.

So, if you have the responsibility of training people, have you considered creating videos in Loom.com?  You’ll need a gmail account and to use the Chrome browser. It works really well for screen capturing procedures that are done on the computer.

What used to take hours to write and screenshot procedures, can now be done in minutes.

Stacey isn’t the only person I’ve worked with who has resisted using Loom. Yet those who have accepted the challenge and encouragement have become excited to do more.

If you’re resisting, please just have a go.  No-one else needs to see your first couple of attempts.

As Les Brown says, “You don’t have to be great to get started, but you do have to start to get great.”

If you’re interested to know more tips and strategies to save yourself time, today is the last day to enrol for the next Loyal Lieutenant Masterclass Series. Imagine how much time you’ll get back when you know how to write the right way and how to effortlessly streamline your work.

P.S. Enrol today for the next Loyal Lieutenant masterclass series starting Tuesday September 5th.  Check it out here https://shirleydaltoncourse.com/webinar

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Find Your Treasure (WT687)

Find Your Treasure (WT687)

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by Shirley Dalton | 25 Aug, 2023 | Blog, Mindset

WT 687 Find your treasure

Every now and then you hear a quote or a little saying that resonates and becomes a mantra that you live by.

Tonight, I heard two and I wanted to share them with you and give you some context as to why they resonated.

Hopefully they’ll resonate with you too.

Here’s a bit of background. A couple of weeks ago I attended Louise Hay’s “Love Yourself, Heal Your Life” course, facilitated by Jeanine Sciacca.

It was an amazing experience and I met some amazing people.

Tonight, was a catch up for the attendees to check in and see what, if anything had changed or transformed since the course.

As participants shared their stories, Jeanine reflected and heard herself say, for the very first time ever, that we are “Perfectly Spiritual and Imperfectly Human”.

Wowza! I had goose bumps. My belief system is that we are spiritual beings having a human experience and that we are on this earth at this time to experience all that being human has to offer; all the emotions, all the various physical forms (health, sport, senses etc.) and mentally through our thoughts. Yes! Yes! Yes! We are perfectly spiritual and imperfectly human. Thank you, Jeanine.

The second quotable quote: “The cave you fear to enter is the cave that holds the treasure you seek” (source unknown).

OMG! How often do we hold ourselves back through fear, through not feeling worthy, not being good enough or the imposter syndrome?

Let this week be the week you start to change all that.

Let this week be the week you identify the cave.

Let this week be the week that you dare to enter to the cave.

Let this week be the week you claim your treasure.

What is it that you seek?

Ask and have faith because your perfect spiritual essence will help you enter that cave and find your treasure.

P.S. Our next Loyal Lieutenant masterclass series starts Tuesday September 5th.  Check it out here https://shirleydaltoncourse.com/webinar

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I Won’t Bother (WT686)

I Won’t Bother (WT686)

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by Shirley Dalton | 18 Aug, 2023 | Blog, Leadership, Mindset

WT 686 I won't bother

How many times have you said or heard, “I won’t bother”?

The reason I’m mentioning it this week is because I’m thrilled to announce that I have recorded an audio version of my book, “The Loyal Lieutenant: How The Second-in-Command Brings The CEO’s Vision To Life” and 10 lucky readers will receive complimentary access to listen to the book rather than read it.

Thanks to Lee Woodward for his skill, advice, mentoring and support, we now have an audio version.

When we celebrated 13 years of Weekly Thoughts a few months ago, I gave away a complimentary enrolment to The Loyal Lieutenant Masterclass Series (which retails for $1997 and which starts on Tuesday 5th September) and received just one reply, so of course, that one reply became the lucky winner.

I was surprised.

It made me wonder whether you have some Limiting Beliefs or are engaging in Automatic Listening, deciding that you won’t win and therefore not bothering to simply hit Reply with a “Yes Please” message.

Or perhaps your narrative goes something like, “Shirley knows me, so she wouldn’t give it to me”.

Remember, our beliefs dictate our destiny, so now might be a good time to reflect on what’s going through you mind at any given time.

There’s a great story about a man who got bogged in snow in a rural area at night. He got out of his car to get a shovel from his boot, only to find he didn’t have a shovel.

Looking around, he could see a light in the far distance. He decided to walk towards the light and see if he could borrow a shovel.

As he walked towards the light he started thinking. “Oh, it’s probably dinner time. I’ll be interrupting. They might be scared by a stranger and shoot me. There might be dogs on the property that will chase me. They mightn’t even have a shovel. They might not want to lend me their shovel.”

As he walked and walked and walked, his internal chatter got more and more negative, until he finally reached the steps of the house with the light.

He walked up the steps and knocked on the door.

A man opened the door.

Before the man could say anything, the stranded motorist looked at him, shook his head and in response to his own negative self talk, answered, “You can shove your shovel up your ……. I didn’t want it anyway” and with that turned and walked off.

Don’t let this offer be an opportunity for you to engage in negative self talk, limiting beliefs or automatic listening.

If you’d like to receive access to the audio version of the book, please click Reply and type “Yes Please”. You never know, the outcome might surprise you. It might actually be more positive than you think or expect.

So, don’t think, just do.

P.S. Our next Loyal Lieutenant masterclass series starts Tuesday September 5th.  Check it out here https://shirleydaltoncourse.com/webinar

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This Is Really Awkward For Me (WT685)

This Is Really Awkward For Me (WT685)

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by Shirley Dalton | 11 Aug, 2023 | Blog, Communication Skills

WT 685 This is Really Awkward for Me

I’m sure at one time or another you’ve had THAT conversation with someone; a conversation that you’d rather not have. A conversation where you have to confront someone.

It could be at home with your personal relationships or at work or with your sporting team etc.

The truth is that most people would prefer not to have the conversation and many actively avoid it. However, if you avoid it, it only tends to get worse.

When I’m coaching my clients, many find that even when they resolve to have the conversation, they don’t know how to start it.

So this week, we’re going to talk about a concept called “Inoculation”, which I learned from Jennifer Elliot, creator of the Integrity and Values profile.

Inoculation as a concept for communication skills is the same as what most of us went through with getting vaccinated for Covid.

By being given a little of the virus, the aim is to lessen the effect for people who might get it and prevent as many as possible from getting sick.

When we have to have THAT conversation, we start by “inoculating” the other person so that they do not feel ambushed or blindsided.

We might start by saying something like, “This is really awkward for me. I feel uncomfortable having to have this conversation”.

This helps the initiator of the conversation to acknowledge how they feel so they can go on and also helps the person receiving the feedback to get ready for what’s about to come.

From there the feedback can be given, e.g. “It has come to my attention that one of our customers has not been invoiced for the past three months for work completed. Can you help me understand how this happened please?”

The next thing to do is to active listen the response.

The conversation can develop from there.

Inoculation gets you started. It sets the tone for how the conversation will go and reduces the potential for an argument.

Next time you have to have THAT conversation with someone, please inoculate them. You’ll find you’ll most likely get a better outcome as well as maintain a better relationship.

P.S. Our next Loyal Lieutenant masterclass series is starting in September.  Check it out here https://shirleydaltoncourse.com/webinar

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