Ross and I were having a conversation and discussing passive aggressive behaviours.

You know the ones; the sarcasm, the “it’s meant to be funny, but it’s really not”.

Without any prompting, Ross admitted, “I know I’m Like That – I can be passive aggressive”.

I smiled. Having been married to him for 36 years, I too know that he can be like that.

Being aware of it, doesn’t mean you’re going to do anything about it.

In fact, the 3 most dangerous words anyone can say are, “That’s Just Me”.

Why?

Because they are making no apology for the way they are and it usually comes when they realise or someone points out that they could behave differently.

You might be agreeing with the statement “That’s Just Me” and quite happy to continue to behave in your ways and that’s ok if those ways are positive toward yourself and others.

It becomes a problem when “I Know I’m Like That” and “That’s Just Me” is used as excuse not to change.

If you think about it, are you being stubborn? Are you making a statement?

Receiving feedback is not always comfortable, however I encourage you, the next time you receive some feedback on how you could change your behaviour, please don’t resist. Take on the feedback, if you want to grow and develop and enjoy even better relationships.

We all have a choice.

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It was the end of the year.

It was the start of the festive season.

I was exhausted.

We’d had a big year with work and cleaning up my uncle’s place and now I felt the pressure to be social; to contact people and wish them a Merry Christmas etc.

I didn’t have anything left in the tank, so my calls and letters went by the wayside.

“Not to worry”, I thought to myself.

“I’ll contact people in the new year and wish them all the best.”

The new year came and went and I still hadn’t contacted my peeps.

It wasn’t that I didn’t think of them. I just didn’t have the energy.

Why am I telling you this?

This week I had to coach a team member who was going way above and beyond.

I was concerned for her health. The hours and the pressure were not sustainable.

She had a little reminder call with her health.

“I’m also being selfish”, I shared.

“If you have 100 tasks and you get through 75 of them, that’s a good effort. There is always tomorrow.”

“If you push yourself to get the 100 done and continue to push, at one point or another, you’ll fall over and then none of the tasks will be done.”

Today’s thought is for all the over-achievers.

There are only 24 hours in a day.

Those hours need to be shared amongst work, family, sleeping, hobbies and interests and rest.

Let’s not start the year feeling exhausted and let’s make sure that we do take the time to rest and recharge. Afterall, I’m told that recovery time is the most important time for an elite athlete.

Let’s follow their lead.

This year, let’s not end exhausted.

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Happy New Year! Wishing you all the very best for 2026.

May it be a wonderful year for you.

Speaking of timing, let’s ponder what it means.

I was preparing breakfast the other morning for Christmas.

We were celebrating with family.

There were so many things to take care – the drinks, the eggs, the croissants, setting the table etc.

I don’t know about you but I’m a List Maker.

I write down everything I have to do so I don’t miss anything. Well, that’s the aim anyway.

So even though I had my list, I was still struggling to get it all done by myself.

Thankfully, Superman Ross was on hand.

Without asking, he could see what needed to be done and just did it.

I couldn’t help but think about how important timing is.

Everything had to be ready on time and served hot.

True, it was one breakfast held once a year, but think about timing in general.

Think about the times you’ve ended up in the right place at the right time with the right people and other times when you maybe felt the timing wasn’t quite right.

One of my favourite quotes comes from the movie, “The World’s Most Exotic Marigold Hotel”, “Everything always works out in the end and if it’s not working out, it’s not the end.”

This is something I remind myself of when I feel like I’m not in control or things aren’t going to plan. It really helps me to stress less about the timing, knowing that everything happens as it should because “It’s all in the timing”.

As you head into a new year, if you are feeling a little overwhelmed with all the festivities, please relax and remind yourself, “It’s all in the timing, everything works out in the end.”

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