I Want To Get Better But… (WT499)

I Want To Get Better But… (WT499)

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by Shirley Dalton | 17 Jan, 2020 | Blog, Mindset

WT499 I want to get better but...

This week is a bit of a wake up call for all of us.

On Sunday, I head to USA to graduate as a Facilitator of David Bayer’s Phenomenal Coaching System (and it is phenomenal). 

One of the requirements to graduate (and there were many) is that I attend a 2-day conference/graduation event in Orlando, Florida. 

I did ask if I could join virtually. “No. You have to attend in person.”

Dang!

That means I have to fly over 20 hours for a 2-day event and fly back again, not to mention the cost involved in travel and accommodation.

And I’ll be heading back over there in March for his 3 day Powerful Living Experience Event.

So here’s the point.

This week I opened our Leading Yourself and Leading Others Online Membership for the second time. It’s not something you can join unless the doors are open and I had numerous people tell me, “They want to get better but…”.  “They want to improve their leadership skills but ….”

Here’s the wake up call.

We don’t get better by wanting it without taking any action.

Now don’t get me wrong, I’m a big believer in visualisation or mental rehearsal because we know how the brain works and how we can hack it to get what we want. However, we have to take some action in order for the Infinite Intelligence, also known as Life, to correspond with us.

If there’s something you want or someone you want to become, it’s not going to happen without you taking some form of action.

Something has to change for things to change.

I get it. We get scared. We don’t want to put the effort in. Believe me, if I knew what I was signing up for with the Facilitator Training, I probably wouldn’t have. Once I committed though, I did what was required to graduate.

What will you do?

What is it that you want?

Will you commit to taking some form of action towards having it?

If you want to grow and develop, it’s the only way.

One last point. If you’re sick and you go to the Doctor and he or she prescribes you some pills or bed rest or exercise or whatever it is, do you take the advice on board and follow your prescription or do you tell the Doctor, I want to get better but …..?

Have Faith – Take Action (WT473)

Have Faith – Take Action (WT473)

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by Shirley Dalton | 19 Jul, 2019 | Blog, Mindset

WT 473 Have Faith - Take Action

It was 1am. We were sleeping in a paddock (a free camp), with only two other caravans nearby.

We had stayed there the night before with about 20 vans and motorhomes and it was quiet and peaceful. We felt safe.

But not the next night. 

The locals had been partying all night and were starting to get unruly. Walking through the paddock they were singing, dancing, fighting and swearing.

I woke Ross. “Do you hear that?”

“What?”

“There’s people outside and they sound like they’re drunk. I’m uncomfortable. I think we should go.”

“It’ll be fine. They’re just loud like Charlie used to be. They’re most likely harmless.” 

I did my best to go back to sleep without success.

“I can’t do it. We have to go.”

Ross sighed as he got out of bed and got dressed.

Within about 10 minutes we had elevated the bed, pulled the covers off the windows, packed up and were driving out of the paddock.

“I need to get fuel,” Ross reminded me.

We found a service station and the lady (who was working by herself) said we could have stayed across the road but there had been quite a lot of people walking around.

With nowhere to go, we just had to have faith and take action.

As Ross drove northward amidst the fog and B Double trucks carrying sugar cane, I checked the internet and we found another roadside camp about 40 kilometres away.

We arrived around 2:30am and just fitted into a spot off the road.

It was noisy and we didn’t care.

We were safe and our faith and taking action had paid off.

Your turn, what would you have done?

Would you have stayed or gone?

Can you remember a time when you had to act on faith and it worked out?

“Have faith” is something I constantly remind myself.

Are You Burning Energy? (WT471)

Are You Burning Energy? (WT471)

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by Shirley Dalton | 5 Jul, 2019 | Blog, Business

WT 471 Are you burning energy?

I’m guessing you’re well aware of the word “procrastination” and what it means?

Today I’d like to look at it from another angle.

I was talking with a client this week who was totally distressed by what he perceived as his “lack of achievement” towards his goals. (I can totally relate to that!) 

It’s not that he is lazy.

It’s not that he won’t take action.

It’s not that he’s not motivated and it’s certainly not because he doesn’t know what he is talking about. 

Indeed, he is totally frustrated because he can’t decide; he can’t choose the first step to take.

As we talked, I encouraged him to “simply lean into it” and just do something.

We burn so much energy when we waste our time trying to come to a decision.

Many of us need to see the perfect outcome before we can take a step forward.

The irony is, that life is not like that. We make progress by taking one step at a time.

Like my client, I’ve been stuck myself with making a decision about how to niche down my own business and who to attract.

I admit, it’s difficult when you have so many choices. Again, like my client, when you can serve many people with different solutions and you enjoy them all, it’s a daunting task to say “No” to some.

When you think about the energy you’re wasting, it becomes critical to stop procrastinating.

Simply make a decision, choose an action and take one small step towards it.

If you find you don’t like the direction it’s going, simply make another decision.

The only way to overcome “paralysis by analysis” is to do something.

A mentor of mine once put it this way, “Just pick a horse and ride it”.

Your task this week is to do exactly that.

If you’ve found yourself paralysed and burning energy, simply choose one small action you can take and do that.

Go on. Do it now. You can always change it.

Stop burning energy.

She’s Here (WT454)

She’s Here (WT454)

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by Shirley Dalton | 8 Mar, 2019 | Blog, Mindset

WT 454 She's Here

My goodness, what a difference 7 days can make.

Our beloved motorhome, Contessa finally arrived 2 days ago.

She’s here.

We placed our order about 10 months ago and for Ross and I, not having children, taking delivery of Contessa was like celebrating the arrival of a baby.

And like giving birth, it didn’t all go to plan.

The dealership promised us we would be on the road by 10am.

We arrived at the dealership at 11:30am, expecting to have a quick run through and be on our way.

Three hours later, we were nearly crying. We had no idea the induction or handover would take this long and ours was supposed to be a turbo handover.

We then had to throw a bag in the back and get going.

We arrived in Canberra just after midnight and parked on ground that wasn’t exactly level.

I was freaking out. “Don’t move! Don’t roll over.” I was scared we might roll down the hill.

Of course we were fine. It was just my anxiety and overactive imagination.

The next day we ran day one of the leadership program and it all went exceptionally well.

Today we travelled back to Newcastle to pack Contessa and will head back to Canberra next week.

She’s finally arrived and I have to pinch myself.

Less than 3 months ago, I had no idea how we would make it happen and here we are sitting in Contessa, enjoying our nomadic lifestyle.

It feels surreal and yet it is real.

We imagined this. We visualised this. We took action believing this would happen and it has.

I feel so lucky and so relieved.

Now it’s your turn.

What is it you want to manifest?

What action do you need to take to make it happen?

As Rhonda Byrne says in her best selling book, The Secret, Ask, Believe and Receive.

What most people don’t get is that the action part is embedded in the believing. When you believe something is going to happen, you take action towards it.

What’s your thing?

Ask, Believe (take action) and Receive.

She’s here!

It’s Not Until You Do It That You Learn How to Do It (WT400)

It’s Not Until You Do It That You Learn How to Do It (WT400)

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by Shirley Dalton | 23 Feb, 2018 | Blog, Business

WT 400 It's not until you do it that you learn how to do it

Each week there seems to be a theme that presents itself a number of times. I guess that’s the universe making sure I get it.

This week, the theme was all about taking action and getting feedback in order to learn how to do it better.

Working with a long term client, I flew to Canberra to provide some training for their managers and sales reps. 

Together we created the content for the program and delivered it as a pilot to ensure we had it right before rolling out across the company. 

Remembering last week’s thought – Plans are Useless but Planning is Essential – we had certainly planned for the training. 

And now that the training has been delivered, it’s easy to analyse what worked and what didn’t work. 

Little things like the start and finish times for the program could have been changed to suit the hours the team were used to working, rather than the hours I generally do for the leadership program. 

Having the materials couriered ahead of time would have saved me some excess baggage fees with the 17kg of folders and books and resources that flew with me. (Thank God my bag didn’t get lost or I would have been in a real pickle.) 

It was only through delivering the material that I could determine the right amount of time to allow for different activities. The participants seemed to catch on to some concepts really quickly which means I can shorten the amount of time allowed for future participants. Other concepts that I thought would be completed fairly quickly actually took a lot longer because the participants were totally engaged in discussing how it applied to them. 

It’s not until you do something that you learn how to do it. 

Another example; our makeup artist for The Powerful Marketing Video Event allowed 60-90 minutes per attendee. We were all pleasantly surprised to find we only needed 45-60 minutes. This feedback makes a huge difference when we are planning for future events and the number of people we can comfortably film to help them market their businesses. 

And just yesterday I joined an exercise club. This morning I was quite anxious about using the equipment without having been trained. Again, it’s not until you do something that you learn how to do it. Tomorrow will be easy! 

Thinking about you and your business; how does this apply to you? What are some of the things that you might be procrastinating on because you think you have to figure it out first before taking action? 

I encourage you to simply take action. In fact, one of the games we played demonstrated this concept beautifully. The instruction was “No thinking is required – only action”. All the participants had to do was listen to the feedback. They received a clap for taking the right action and silence for the wrong action. No thinking was required. 

What will you take action on this week? Are you open to the learning and the feedback?  

The quickest way to learn is to do it.

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