What If I Train Them And They Go (WT688)

What If I Train Them And They Go (WT688)

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by Shirley Dalton | 1 Sep, 2023 | Blog, Leadership, Mindset

WT 688 What if I train them and they go

This week I was coaching with a client (we’ll call her Stacey). Stacey had some homework to submit from our previous session. She was to create a 5 minute training video using Loom.com.

We’d talked about different ways to train people in previous sessions and Stacey had resisted using Loom. “I don’t like my voice. I don’t want to be seen on camera. I say ‘um’ a lot.”

“Yeah, yeah, yeah. I only know one person who admits to liking their voice. When it comes to being seen, turn the camera off or even better, remember what Frank Kern taught me:

“People are looking at you every day. Get over it.”

So Stacey did.

She submitted the video and we watched it together on Zoom. It was a fabulous video. It was natural. It was authentic; just as if Stacey was sitting next to you, showing you how to do it.

Stacey had even made a mistake in the procedure and corrected it in real time. This was perfect because it showed how easy mistakes can be made and more importantly how they can be easily fixed.

I asked Stacey what she got out of doing the homework.

Firstly, she mentioned that she got it done because I held her accountable to do it.

Secondly, she realised how much time she is going to get back, now that she has a 5 minute training video to show others how to do a job that could take hours of her time, when a senior manager could be working on more productive or strategic tasks.

Stacey also realised that having the library of training videos and procedures means she doesn’t have to continually train people on an individual basis.

“I’ve realised how much time I’ve lost over the years training people who leave the company. I don’t get to recoup that time when they’ve left nor do I get any return on my investment when they leave. I get nothing out of it.”

This is a common experience that can result in a lack of motivation and desire to train new people, which doesn’t help the new team members.

So, if you have the responsibility of training people, have you considered creating videos in Loom.com?  You’ll need a gmail account and to use the Chrome browser. It works really well for screen capturing procedures that are done on the computer.

What used to take hours to write and screenshot procedures, can now be done in minutes.

Stacey isn’t the only person I’ve worked with who has resisted using Loom. Yet those who have accepted the challenge and encouragement have become excited to do more.

If you’re resisting, please just have a go.  No-one else needs to see your first couple of attempts.

As Les Brown says, “You don’t have to be great to get started, but you do have to start to get great.”

If you’re interested to know more tips and strategies to save yourself time, today is the last day to enrol for the next Loyal Lieutenant Masterclass Series. Imagine how much time you’ll get back when you know how to write the right way and how to effortlessly streamline your work.

P.S. Enrol today for the next Loyal Lieutenant masterclass series starting Tuesday September 5th.  Check it out here https://shirleydaltoncourse.com/webinar

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Find Your Treasure (WT687)

Find Your Treasure (WT687)

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by Shirley Dalton | 25 Aug, 2023 | Blog, Mindset

WT 687 Find your treasure

Every now and then you hear a quote or a little saying that resonates and becomes a mantra that you live by.

Tonight, I heard two and I wanted to share them with you and give you some context as to why they resonated.

Hopefully they’ll resonate with you too.

Here’s a bit of background. A couple of weeks ago I attended Louise Hay’s “Love Yourself, Heal Your Life” course, facilitated by Jeanine Sciacca.

It was an amazing experience and I met some amazing people.

Tonight, was a catch up for the attendees to check in and see what, if anything had changed or transformed since the course.

As participants shared their stories, Jeanine reflected and heard herself say, for the very first time ever, that we are “Perfectly Spiritual and Imperfectly Human”.

Wowza! I had goose bumps. My belief system is that we are spiritual beings having a human experience and that we are on this earth at this time to experience all that being human has to offer; all the emotions, all the various physical forms (health, sport, senses etc.) and mentally through our thoughts. Yes! Yes! Yes! We are perfectly spiritual and imperfectly human. Thank you, Jeanine.

The second quotable quote: “The cave you fear to enter is the cave that holds the treasure you seek” (source unknown).

OMG! How often do we hold ourselves back through fear, through not feeling worthy, not being good enough or the imposter syndrome?

Let this week be the week you start to change all that.

Let this week be the week you identify the cave.

Let this week be the week that you dare to enter to the cave.

Let this week be the week you claim your treasure.

What is it that you seek?

Ask and have faith because your perfect spiritual essence will help you enter that cave and find your treasure.

P.S. Our next Loyal Lieutenant masterclass series starts Tuesday September 5th.  Check it out here https://shirleydaltoncourse.com/webinar

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I Won’t Bother (WT686)

I Won’t Bother (WT686)

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by Shirley Dalton | 18 Aug, 2023 | Blog, Leadership, Mindset

WT 686 I won't bother

How many times have you said or heard, “I won’t bother”?

The reason I’m mentioning it this week is because I’m thrilled to announce that I have recorded an audio version of my book, “The Loyal Lieutenant: How The Second-in-Command Brings The CEO’s Vision To Life” and 10 lucky readers will receive complimentary access to listen to the book rather than read it.

Thanks to Lee Woodward for his skill, advice, mentoring and support, we now have an audio version.

When we celebrated 13 years of Weekly Thoughts a few months ago, I gave away a complimentary enrolment to The Loyal Lieutenant Masterclass Series (which retails for $1997 and which starts on Tuesday 5th September) and received just one reply, so of course, that one reply became the lucky winner.

I was surprised.

It made me wonder whether you have some Limiting Beliefs or are engaging in Automatic Listening, deciding that you won’t win and therefore not bothering to simply hit Reply with a “Yes Please” message.

Or perhaps your narrative goes something like, “Shirley knows me, so she wouldn’t give it to me”.

Remember, our beliefs dictate our destiny, so now might be a good time to reflect on what’s going through you mind at any given time.

There’s a great story about a man who got bogged in snow in a rural area at night. He got out of his car to get a shovel from his boot, only to find he didn’t have a shovel.

Looking around, he could see a light in the far distance. He decided to walk towards the light and see if he could borrow a shovel.

As he walked towards the light he started thinking. “Oh, it’s probably dinner time. I’ll be interrupting. They might be scared by a stranger and shoot me. There might be dogs on the property that will chase me. They mightn’t even have a shovel. They might not want to lend me their shovel.”

As he walked and walked and walked, his internal chatter got more and more negative, until he finally reached the steps of the house with the light.

He walked up the steps and knocked on the door.

A man opened the door.

Before the man could say anything, the stranded motorist looked at him, shook his head and in response to his own negative self talk, answered, “You can shove your shovel up your ……. I didn’t want it anyway” and with that turned and walked off.

Don’t let this offer be an opportunity for you to engage in negative self talk, limiting beliefs or automatic listening.

If you’d like to receive access to the audio version of the book, please click Reply and type “Yes Please”. You never know, the outcome might surprise you. It might actually be more positive than you think or expect.

So, don’t think, just do.

P.S. Our next Loyal Lieutenant masterclass series starts Tuesday September 5th.  Check it out here https://shirleydaltoncourse.com/webinar

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Which One Holds The Most Belief? (WT684)

Which One Holds The Most Belief? (WT684)

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by Shirley Dalton | 4 Aug, 2023 | Blog, Mindset

T 684 Which one holds the most belief?

This week I finished reading Bruce Lipton’s book, “The Biology of Belief: Unleashing the Power of Consciousness, Matter and Miracles”.

It was first published in 2005 and then updated ten years later in 2015.

It was a fascinating book, written by a scientist who explains how our beliefs or perceptions are “programmed” before the age of 6 and “which control our biology for the rest of our lives … or at least until we make the effort to reprogram them.” (Lipton, p173)

Lipton states that our subconscious mind controls about 95 percent of our behaviour. This explains the disconnect we have between our conscious mind where we set goals and desires and our sub-conscious mind which will either be in alignment with our goals or not.  Alignment equals achievement, non-alignment means lack of achievement or self-sabotage.

It also explains why will power alone doesn’t last.

Indeed, another great book to read to create lasting change is “Switch” by brothers Dan and Chip Heath.

In their book, they use the analogy of a rider and an elephant. The rider is our willpower, the elephant is our emotions and motivation.  Unless the elephant wants to go in the direction of the rider, the rider (willpower) has little control over where the elephant goes.

The good news is that we now know that we can change our programming. We can rewire the brain. We can change our beliefs and therefore our destiny.

The question is, which reprogramming modality to choose?

The answer, according to Lipton, is “the one in which you hold the most belief.”

You would have heard of the placebo effect before, where an inert substance (e.g. sugar pill) causes a perceived beneficial outcome.

Have you heard of the term, “nocebo”?  A nocebo is the opposite. It causes a perceived harmful outcome. For example, if you believe that a drug causes certain side effects, you will most likely manifest the side effects.

So what’s the point of our thought this week?

The point is, it’s a huge reminder that we need to accept that we are 100% responsible for our lives and what happens to us, even though we may be consciously unaware. We need to take responsibility and start to become aware of the limiting beliefs we have been programmed with (albeit unintentionally from our parents and caregivers) and do the work to change our lives so that we can all be, do, have and feel what we want.

If you’re not living the life you desire, then take responsibility for changing it. Start to notice your limiting beliefs. Invest in a training program or methodology that suits you to override the conditioning.

You can easily notice your limiting beliefs by listening to what you say, e.g. You can’t get good staff. There are no good men or women out there. It’s hard to make money.  These beliefs (perceptions or decisions) are holding you back. The only way to change them is to rewire your brain.

Depending on what you believe, below is a very small sample of different modalities that can help:

  1. Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT)
  2. Emotional Freedom Technique (Tapping)
  3. Psych-K (by Rob Williams)
  4. Neuro Linguistic Programming
  5. Silva Mind Control Method
  6. Various forms of energy healing

The important thing here is that it doesn’t matter which modality you choose. The one that will work is the one which holds the most belief.

P.S. Our next Loyal Lieutenant masterclass series is starting in September.  If you own a business and are desperate to have some help so you can step back and not have to do everything, reply to this email and let’s talk. It is possible to have a business and a life you love.

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You’re Only Cheating Yourself (WT683)

You’re Only Cheating Yourself (WT683)

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by Shirley Dalton | 28 Jul, 2023 | Blog, Mindset

WT 683 You are only cheating yourself

Have you ever “gone on a diet”?

Have you ever taken action to change a habit?

This week I started back on “The Fast 800”. Eight hundred refers to the number of calories you can eat in a day.

I followed it a year or two ago and released about 8 kilos. (I can’t say lost, or I might find it again, which I did.)

I found it challenging and I know what I am in for again.

I’m having to use my mindset training not to allow my limiting beliefs to dominate and create the exact experience I don’t want, e.g. “It’s going to be hard”.   Well, that may not be true. It could be easy.

I’m also having to be even more aware of my thoughts, feelings and actions.

The other night Ross made a beautiful dinner based on beans (legumes) with some lettuce and pickled cucumbers etc.

As I took my plate back into the kitchen I saw two servings of beans still in the frypan.

I put my plate down and walked over and started to pick at the beans with my fingers.

I ate two mouthfuls and a voice in my head said, “You’re only cheating yourself”.

It was true. It didn’t matter to Ross if I ate more beans or not. It wasn’t like I was trying to hide from him and no-one else would know if I tucked in and ate more of the beans.

It’s times like these that give us the opportunity to understand ourselves.

It’s times like these that challenge us to stay true to our goals and take the action necessary to achieve them.

It’s times like these that require us to flex our discipline muscles.

If we set a goal and don’t do the work to achieve it, we’re only cheating ourselves.

How about you?

Have you set a goal recently? Is there something you want?

Have you started taking action or are you still thinking about it?

If you’ve started taking action, are you being persistent and disciplined or are you letting yourself off the hook and cheating yourself?

 And one last point, there are two schools of thought on this one; if you have a goal, vision or dream you want:

  1. Don’t tell anyone, in order to avoid the negative energy of the naysayers, or
  2. Tell everyone to keep yourself accountable.

Guess which one I’m following.

Now that I have “spilled the beans” and shared, I have to keep going otherwise I’ll experience the pain of embarrassment.  Out of two forms of motivation, move away from pain or toward pleasure, I’m definitely a “move away from pain” gal.

How about you?   Away from pain or toward pleasure?

Knowing yourself helps you lead and manage yourself.

Remember, if you cheat, you’re only cheating yourself.

P.S. Our next Loyal Lieutenant masterclass series is starting in September.  Running for 9 weeks over zoom, I will personally guide you through my 5 Steps to Business Freedom so you can streamline your operations, discover how to write procedures the right way and develop Key Performance Indicators and Key Behaviour Indicators for you and your team. It’s practical. You’ll be completing assignments each week so at the end you will have already started improving your productivity, plus you have the opportunity to be coached in real time by me. Starts Tuesday 5th September 9:30am – 11:00am Sydney time.  Reply to this email if you’re interested.

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The Dash (WT682)

The Dash (WT682)

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by Shirley Dalton | 21 Jul, 2023 | Blog, Leadership, Mindset

WT 682 The dash

This week I had a really interesting conversation with a participant in the next Leading Yourself and Leading Others experience.

Participants complete a profile and we spend 2 hours together understanding the report and identifying what works and what gets in the way of achieving what they want.

Participants share their life stories and I feel very privileged to hear what people have done and experienced in their lives.

In our meeting this week, I commented about the poem “The Dash” by Linda Ellis, that is often read at funerals and which is about the metaphor of the hyphen that separates the birth date and death date on a tombstone.

It represents what we do between the two dates and I commented that this participant has a big dash, not that she is old, rather that she has done a lot in her lifetime.

It got me thinking about my dash. What are the things that I’ve done and experienced so far? What have I learned? And like the poem suggests, am I living life to the full? Am I living the life I want to live?

These are big questions. How would you answer them for yourself?

Are you spending time with those you love?

Do you enjoy the work you do?

Are you making a difference to others?

Is there something else you’d rather be doing?

Is there somewhere else you’d rather be living?

Let’s take the time to reflect.

Let’s think about the time we have left. (For me, I’ve decided that’s at least another 37 years.)

What do you want to be, do, have and feel?

If you’re not being, doing, having and feeling what you want, then maybe it’s time to make some changes.

What do you want to include in your dash?

P.S. If you’ve been sitting on the fence thinking you might like to register for the Leading Yourself and Leading Experience but haven’t quite committed, now might be a good time to reach out and make it happen. I can guarantee you it will change your life.

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