I Want To Be Micromanaged (WT809)

I Want To Be Micromanaged (WT809)

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WT 809 I want to be micro-managed

I trust you enjoyed a nice Christmas day doing whatever makes you happy with people that are special to you.

It’s Boxing Day, so I trust you’ll enjoy today as well.

“I want to be micromanaged”, said no-one ever.

This week I conducted some recruitment interviews for a client.

One of the questions I ask is, “How do you like to be managed?”

The answer to that gives us a clue as to how to work with them rather than taking 6 months to work it out during probation.

In all the interviews I’ve conducted, not one person has ever said, “I want to be micromanaged”.

In fact, most start with “I don’t want to be micromanaged”.

So how do you manage and supervise to give yourself a level of comfort that your people know what they have to do and are doing it correctly?

The answer is a special type of job description known as Key Performance Indicators and Key Behaviour Indicators. There’s a whole chapter dedicated to this in my book, “The Loyal Lieutenant: How The Second-in-Command Brings the CEO’s Vision to Life”.

People want to know what they have to do, to what standard so it’s your responsibility to make it clear for them.

Key Performance Indicators (KPI’s) describe the outcome for the role. Why is the role important? For example, one KPI for a property manager could be “a maximum of 2% of tenants in arrears”.

Key Behaviour Indicators (KBI’s) are the tasks the employee does to achieve the outcome, including the standard to be met. For example, “Generate a Weekly Arrears Report”. The employee will either do it or not. One advantage of using KPIs and KBIs is that you get to set the standard. If you want weekly, then it’s weekly. Another advantage is that it is measurable. They either do or do not generate the report weekly. This takes away any subjectivity for you. Performance is based on competency.

If the report is not generated weekly, look for the reason. Is there a system problem that caused them not to do the report? Are they unable or unwilling? If unable, do they need more training?

If they know what to do and they know how to do it (ie. you have trained them) and there is no system problem, then it’s a case of unwilling.

In my experience, KPIs and KBIs are much better than the generic job descriptions that state responsibilities because job descriptions don’t generally include the specific measure, e.g. responsible to ensure tenant payments are made on time.

KPIs and KBIs also ensure you revert back to your policies and procedures by including something like, “Follow the company policies and procedures to complete the below” before listing the KBI’s.

This way you can change the way you do things (your procedures) without having to update the KPI/KBI. It simply means, in this example, the employee is using a different procedure or app to  generate the weekly arrears report.

That’s how you can make it easy for yourself to supervise and manage without micromanaging whilst making it absolutely crystal clear what the employee is expected to do, to what standard.

Let me know what you think.

Reach out if you’d like more information or some help to prepare your own KPIs and KBIs.

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They’re Not Ready (WT807)

They’re Not Ready (WT807)

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WT 807 They are not ready

This week I wanted to scream.

I’d been talking with some business owners about the next Leading Yourself and Leading Others experience, coming up in February 2026.

“They’re not ready”, they kept telling me, referring to their team members.

I was so frustrated because I’ve seen the transformation in people who were “not ready” and who absolutely did not want to do the leadership training and yet they did.

The frustration comes from knowing what is possible for people and not being able to help them see it.

I’m guilty of it myself. Years ago, my mother and father arrived one weekend with a mysterious box which turned out to be a barbeque. 

“We don’t need a barbeque”, we thought.

How wrong we were. We ended up using that barbeque about 4 nights a week.

It was a classic example of you don’t know what you don’t know.

Having invested in personal and professional development all my life, I just don’t understand why people don’t rush to take advantage of what is being offered to them, especially when it can make such a positive difference in their lives.

Still, you can’t force people to do something if they don’t want to do it.

So, I will console myself with one of the topics we teach in the Leadership experience: The Cycle of Change by Prochaska & Di Clemente (who originally devised it in the health industry to understand the process to help smokers quit smoking).

The cycle goes like this:

  1. Pre-contemplation (not ready, not aware, not even thinking about it or in denial)
  2. Contemplation (aware that change might be beneficial, starting to think about it)
  3. Preparation (getting ready to take action, planning)
  4. Action (making the decision, taking some steps toward change)
  5. Maintenance (keeping on with the new behaviours, thoughts or attitudes)
  6. Relapse – what most of us suffer from at one time or another. Start again.
  7. Transcendence – having changed, it would feel strange to “go back to the old ways”. Change is most likely permanent.

If you’re in business you too can apply this to your customer decision making process as well as your team.

Are they ready or are they getting ready?

And if they are getting ready, DON’T GIVE UP ON THEM.

As frustrating as it can be, one day “They’re Not Ready” will turn into “They’re Ready” and then the change can begin.

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It’s A Thin Line (WT804)

It’s A Thin Line (WT804)

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WT 804 It's a fine line

This week I was talking with a colleague about giving feedback to employees.

As he was telling me about his recent success with coaching an employee, I agreed it’s a thin line between feedback that feels like a threat and feedback that feels like support.

“Do this or you’re fired” shuts people down.

It triggers fear. It builds walls. It hurts trust.

Versus, “We’re investing in you because we see your potential.”

This opens people up. It builds confidence. It grows trust.

As we discussed the options, we agreed, both messages talk about change.

Both messages ask for improvement but they land very differently.

One creates resistance. The other creates possibility.

One says, “You have no power.”

The other says, “You have a choice.”

Leaders walk this thin line every day.

At the end of the conversation we both agreed it had been very productive and enlightening.

If you find yourself having to have those conversations, you don’t have to threaten, instead you can empower.

Invite people to step into their growth.

Let them know the decision is theirs.

Remind them that every choice has consequences.

Not punishment, rather consequences.

When people feel threatened, they protect themselves.

When people feel supported, they expand.

It’s a thin line.

I’m curious, which side of the line are you standing on?

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P.P.S. Our next Leading Yourself and Leading Others experience has been scheduled for February 2026.  Thursdays 5th, 12th, 19th and 26th.  Save the dates now.

Responsibility and Reward (WT797)

Responsibility and Reward (WT797)

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WT 797 Responsibility and reward

Many many years ago, Ross and I went to the bank with my father to help him consolidate his accounts.

He had been dealing with the same bank manager for years and to our surprise, the bank manager had left and been replaced by a young woman.

Listening to the way she spoke to the staff and the way she confidently advised us that she would get the team to do the tasks because she was a “manager”, led me to think she hadn’t had a lot of leadership training.

Sadly, this situation is quite common.

Many people aspire to leadership and management positions but it’s not until they get into the roles that they realise that there is a lot more responsibility required before they reap the rewards.

As the leader you now have to step up. Your team are watching. They want a role model.

You can be friendly, you can’t be their friend. Why not? Because it’s challenging to go out and socialise over the weekend and then have to come in and hold your friend accountable for poor performance on Monday.

The rewards are there, however they are not free.  There is a cost and that cost is responsibility.

Your team need your support. They want your attention. They want feedback. They want training. They want smooth operations.

Leadership is about doing the right things and management is about doing things right. Leadership and management are not mutually exclusive.

Whilst beginning leaders and managers often perceive they are going to have the freedom and autonomy to come and go as they please, in reality, they end up working longer to make sure everything and everyone is working well.

And let’s not forget the increase in pay.  This too is appealing to new leaders and managers. I remember when I was promoted to COO at Kip McGrath Education Centres and became the most senior non family executive, Kip said to me, “That’s why you get paid the big bucks. If it was easy, everyone would do it.”

Being a leader and a manager is not easy.

It requires different skills to technical skills.  You are reliant on your people to do the work and they may have different values and beliefs to you.  They get sick. They go on holidays. You need to know how to deal with the “people issues”.

You need to know how to have those conversations – to hold people accountable, to give them feedback, to encourage when they lose confidence, to listen when they need to be heard.

These are known as “soft skills” but there is nothing soft about these skills.  Satya Nadella, Microsoft CEO since 2014 says that “the soft skills are the hardest skills to master”.

If you’re a leader or manager, I expect you’ve experienced most, if not all of the above.

If you’re new to leading and managing, take heart, you’re on a journey of self-discovery and personal and professional development.

Know that it is possible to take on the responsibility and enjoy the rewards. It might just be a bit bumpy at the start.

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Play With It – The 30 Minute AI Test (WT792)

Play With It – The 30 Minute AI Test (WT792)

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WT 792 Play with it, the 30minute AI test

I was showing a client what can be done with AI.

I showed him how easy it is now, compared to 20 years ago when I first started my business helping business owners streamline their operations.

Twenty years ago, it would take me 3-4 hours offsite to draft procedures for every hour I spent onsite.

These days with the help of AI, I can get a draft procedure is less than 15 minutes.

That saves me and the client.

A few days later he came back to me and asked if “that thing” I showed him could analyse data.

“Let’s find out.”

We trialled a pdf which didn’t work so well.

We trialled a single tab from an excel spreadsheet and gave it specific instructions for what we wanted analysed, including suggestions for categories of expenses plus a total for the number of items and the amount spent.

Amazingly, we had all the information we wanted within about 30 minutes of trial and error.

What we found in 30 minutes could save hours and hours of painstaking data analysis, not to mention eye strain.

We were both amazed and thrilled and excited at what we could do.

He almost skipped out the door as he headed home.

If you’re not using AI you’re going to get left behind.

If you’re not using AI, your competitors are—and they’re delivering better outcomes, faster, at a sharper price. And no, AI won’t make you dumber. It makes you more strategic and creative because it rewards better questions.

We didn’t know if what we wanted could be done. We took the attitude of playing with it.

Here’s your challenge for this week:

Identify one thing you could potentially get AI to do for you and play with it. Have fun.

  • It could be data analysis.
  • It could be writing copy for a Facebook ad.
  • It could be creating a procedure.
  • It could be as simple as using a recording and transcription service such as Otter.ai or screen capture your procedures using Loom.com

You might be surprised at how much help you can get and how much smarter you can become.

Let me know what you find.

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Why Can’t I …? (WT786)

Why Can’t I …? (WT786)

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WT 786 Why can't I

Today’s thought might be a bit confronting as we ask and answer what I think is a deep question.

This week I had scheduled to run 3 x 2 hour presentations, “How to Succeed as a Solopreneur”.

On Sunday afternoon I lost it.

I’d spent practically all weekend preparing and practising.

In tears, I cried to Ross, “How come I can’t be like everybody else?”

“Why can’t I be happy to just work for someone and have weekends and evenings off, like other normal people? How come I always seem to be working on the weekend? Why do I put so much pressure on myself?”

Of course Ross knew too well to even attempt to answer that question because he knew it wasn’t a real question.

It was my way of expressing my fear that the presentations may not be whatever I deemed to be “successful”.

During the week I shared this story with a colleague and added, “I’m unemployable” to which she replied, “No you’re not, you’ve got so many skills and so much to offer”.

I corrected my communication, “I mean my attitude.”

And here is the confronting part, there is no such thing as “normal”.

We are all individuals. 

We all have unique gifts and talents that we bring to the world.

At times we can be challenged to show up, however I want to encourage you to stay true to who you are and to not compare yourself with anyone else or look to the other side of the fence, thinking the grass is greener.

Whether you’re an employee or an employer or a solopreneur or a stay at home mum or dad or carer, whatever you choose is OK as long as you are choosing it.

After I got over my little tanty, I settled down and focussed on being grateful.

I am grateful that I have the freedom to choose to work on weekends. 

I am grateful that I have the freedom to choose what I want to work on and with whom.

How about you?

If you find yourself asking, “Why can’t I …..?” how about reframing your question to “How lucky am I, I get to ….?

When we understand that everything in life is a choice, we take back our power.

If you find yourself having a tanty and saying things you don’t really mean, look to what’s underneath that.  Ask yourself “What’s going on here?  What’s the real issue?”

I’ll wager that it’s not the thing you’re complaining about.

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