I Want To Get Better But… (WT499)

I Want To Get Better But… (WT499)

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by Shirley Dalton | 17 Jan, 2020 | Blog, Mindset

WT499 I want to get better but...

This week is a bit of a wake up call for all of us.

On Sunday, I head to USA to graduate as a Facilitator of David Bayer’s Phenomenal Coaching System (and it is phenomenal). 

One of the requirements to graduate (and there were many) is that I attend a 2-day conference/graduation event in Orlando, Florida. 

I did ask if I could join virtually. “No. You have to attend in person.”

Dang!

That means I have to fly over 20 hours for a 2-day event and fly back again, not to mention the cost involved in travel and accommodation.

And I’ll be heading back over there in March for his 3 day Powerful Living Experience Event.

So here’s the point.

This week I opened our Leading Yourself and Leading Others Online Membership for the second time. It’s not something you can join unless the doors are open and I had numerous people tell me, “They want to get better but…”.  “They want to improve their leadership skills but ….”

Here’s the wake up call.

We don’t get better by wanting it without taking any action.

Now don’t get me wrong, I’m a big believer in visualisation or mental rehearsal because we know how the brain works and how we can hack it to get what we want. However, we have to take some action in order for the Infinite Intelligence, also known as Life, to correspond with us.

If there’s something you want or someone you want to become, it’s not going to happen without you taking some form of action.

Something has to change for things to change.

I get it. We get scared. We don’t want to put the effort in. Believe me, if I knew what I was signing up for with the Facilitator Training, I probably wouldn’t have. Once I committed though, I did what was required to graduate.

What will you do?

What is it that you want?

Will you commit to taking some form of action towards having it?

If you want to grow and develop, it’s the only way.

One last point. If you’re sick and you go to the Doctor and he or she prescribes you some pills or bed rest or exercise or whatever it is, do you take the advice on board and follow your prescription or do you tell the Doctor, I want to get better but …..?

Become Resolute (WT498)

Become Resolute (WT498)

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by Shirley Dalton | 10 Jan, 2020 | Blog, Mindset

WT498 Become resolute

It’s the start of a new year.

Do you make new year’s resolutions?

I gave up on them years ago because I found myself disappointed at the start of the next year when I reflected back and observed that I hadn’t achieved my new year’s resolutions.

But that all changed a few days ago when I discovered the way David Bayer looks at setting new year’s resolutions. 

If we look at the language, we are looking to “resolve” the year that passed; to become resolute about the coming year. 

Here’s the exciting part. What we know from David’s teachings is that the brain is a goal achieving machine, however, it is going to find and stack the evidence for whatever decisions we’ve made about life.   

The key word here is “about”.  It’s the beliefs or decisions we’ve made about ourselves and our lives that determine our decisions “to do”. 

Instead of making new year’s resolutions about things to do, let’s look at making decisions about. For example, “This year I resolve to love myself more and release myself from the fear of financial insecurity.” 

If I work on that, my chances of achieving goals like releasing 10kg and becoming engaged as one of David’s Coaches will happen because I will be changing my limiting beliefs and hacking my brain. 

It’s our limiting beliefs that sabotage us and when you understand this, it’s easy, with the tools we have, to create new beliefs and achieve what you want in life. 

So, what will 2020 be like for you. Will you become resolute? Will you do the work to change your Limiting Beliefs and focus on the decisions you’ve made ABOUT life instead of decisions TO DO?

The Power of Gratitude (WT497)

The Power of Gratitude (WT497)

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by Shirley Dalton | 3 Jan, 2020 | Blog, Business

WT497 The Power of Gratitude

As we start the new year, I am reminded of The Power of Gratitude. 

I am so grateful that we took a detour to complete a 6-week systems project in Mudgee, Central West New South Wales.

If we had stuck to our plan, we would have been amongst the thousands of tourists rushing to escape the fires on the south coast of New South Wales and Victoria. We’d already seen first-hand some of the fires on the north coast as we were evacuated a few months ago from Bonnie Hills.

In fact, some of my colleagues had even mentioned some of the “Must See” towns on the south coast, which sadly, are almost destroyed now.

Whilst we send our thoughts and prayers to the people and communities that have been ravished by these unrelenting fires, we must also pay attention to what we can be grateful for.

When we express our gratitude, it raises our vibration and gives us more energy to create the businesses, relationships and lifestyle that we want.

When we operate from a powerful energetic state, we tap into the creativity of the Infinite Intelligence which helps us find creative solutions to problems.

This year, I want to focus on the gratitude I have for the ability to connect to this higher power. I committed to writing in my journal every single day this year; not for any goal or outcome, purely for the joy of writing and helping myself to organise my thoughts and coach myself.

How about you?  What are you grateful for, right now? What will you commit to doing this year, just for the fun and sheer pleasure it gives you?

Wishing you a very happy 2020! May it be all that you want it to be and more.

Shirley

Don’t Dim to Fit In (WT496)

Don’t Dim to Fit In (WT496)

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by Shirley Dalton | 27 Dec, 2019 | Blog, Mindset

WT496 Don't Dim to fit in

Merry Christmas (if you celebrate it), and Happy Holidays if you don’t.

One of my favourite things to do is to read and on Christmas Day I almost devoured this book “Light is the New Black – A Guide to Answering Your Soul’s Calling and Working Your Light” by Rebecca Campbell (2015).  Ross gave it to me and I love the fact that in the book she writes how whomever is reading this book, whether they bought it for themselves or found it on a bookshelf or received it as a gift, our higher self called it forth. Thank you Ross. Thank you Universe!

There was a page in the book that I want to share with you. Headed “Don’t Dim To Fit In”, it really resonated with me and I think you might like it as well. 

“Don’t dim your light to accommodate someone else’s smallness. We are all born to shine big and bright. The Universe is expanding and you are part of the Universe, so expanding is part of your nature. 

“If someone makes you want to retract, notice and slowly back away, they are not for you and you are not for them. Or better yet find it within yourself to expand and shine your light anyway. Flowers don’t open and close according to who is walking by. They open and show their beauty regardless.” (p86)

I love the last two sentences.  

On page 140, Campbell also writes, “The world will only acknowledge you to the degree that you acknowledge yourself.” 

Wow! I must have heard something similar to this, hundreds, if not thousands of times before and yet today for some reason, I really heard it. It landed. So, I made a decision. I’m going to be a flower and let my light shine regardless of who is walking by. In other words, for me, letting go of the fear of being rejected, of not fitting in.  Fact is, I never have fit in. I even wrote about this a few weeks ago and here it is again. I’m trusting I am not the only one who needs to hear this message.

So, what will you do with this information? Will you be inspired to come out of the closet and start sharing your gifts or will you read it, nod in agreement and file it away?

I do believe the Universe is ever expanding and it’s our turn to play, too.

The more you shine your light, the more you inspire us to do the same. One simple way to start shining your light is to do more of the things that “light you up”; the things you enjoy. For me, that is writing. I love to write and so I am committing to writing more, just for the sheer fun of it, without any expectation of where it may go, etc.

What lights you up? Will you commit to doing more of that in 2020?

As we head into the new year, I wish you a year of shining lights. Happy New Year! May it be everything you want it to be and more.

Cheers,

Shirley

Change Your Password – Reset Your Brain (WT495)

Change Your Password – Reset Your Brain (WT495)

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by Shirley Dalton | 20 Dec, 2019 | Blog, Mindset

WT495 Change your password - Reset your Brain

Have you been keeping up with the latest breakthroughs in brain science? 

I’m absolutely fascinated with understanding how the brain works. 

In summary, your brain as part of the human being operating system is both a goal achieving machine and a Google search engine. 

Imagine you have a project to complete and you go to the library and ask the Librarian for some help to get some resources for your project. 

If she’s a good librarian she’ll be able to direct you to exactly what you want in really quick time.

Well your brain is like that, only it doesn’t filter the information. It points you in the direction that it thinks you want to go because of your beliefs and your thoughts – which is why it’s critical that you pay attention to your beliefs and thoughts. 

If your brain is sending you to the wrong aisle, it’s because your thinking is off. 

You can rewire your brain.  

You can train it to go to the right aisle. 

How do you do this? 

You neurosculpt. You make a new decision and then keep reminding yourself of the new decision and finding more and more evidence for the new decision so that eventually your brain understands the path you want it to take. (David Bayer) 

Think of it this way. Have you ever changed your password and then found yourself forgetting it for the first few days and having to look it up every time you wanted to access your computer or credit card etc. and then after a few days you started to remember it and didn’t need to look it up until you changed it again? 

Your brain is similar. When you make a new decision, it may take a little effort to look up the password until you remember it and your brain starts to cooperate and go in the direction you want it to.

I don’t know about you, but I find this information fascinating. We can change our brains. We can have what we want. We can be who we want to be. 

You just need to change your password and reset your brain. 

And that’s something I encourage you to do, especially over the festive season when you might have some more time to yourself.

Thank you for being part of my community in 2019. As the year draws to a close, I am grateful to have the opportunity to hang out with you and I wish you and your family and friends and colleagues a wonderful Christmas and New Year. I’ll be here next week as well.

Cheers!

It’s for the Client to Decide (WT494)

It’s for the Client to Decide (WT494)

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by Shirley Dalton | 13 Dec, 2019 | Blog, Business

WT494 It's for the client to decide

I was participating in an online group discussion this week with my colleagues from all around the world. 

Some of the group members were moving into coaching and they wanted to know what other people charged for their services. 

It was interesting to see the differences in what people offered and what they charged and one of the newbies, (we’ll call her Valerie), laughed and said, “I’ll need coaching to charge that”.

What followed was a very interesting discussion around pricing and self worth and I thought it might be of interest for you, too. 

“I couldn’t possibly charge that”, Valerie responded to one of the coach’s models. 

“Why not?” asked the coach.

“I’m just starting out as a coach and I don’t know enough nor do I have enough experience”, she replied. 

“It’s not about you Valerie.” 

“What do you mean it’s not about me?” 

“It’s about the value you provide for the client. It’s what we call value based pricing.” 

“What do you mean by value based pricing?” 

“Your prices are determined by the value you provide for your clients. It’s based on the transformation they can have in their lives.” 

Valerie still wasn’t getting it. 

“Valerie, what is it worth to someone to help them save their marriage? What is it worth to someone to help them regain their health? What is it worth to someone to grow their business?” 

“It’s worth a lot,” she said and then continued with “But I don’t think I’m worth it, I couldn’t possibly charge that much.”  

“It’s for the client to decide that they are worth it”, another coach chimed in. 

Boom! 

I had never heard it expressed this way. I was so grateful to have witnessed the discussion. 

How often do we base our decisions in business on what we think of ourselves without considering the value that our products or services provide for our clients. 

This week, I’d like you to take a look at what you or your organisation offers in terms of the value you provide for your clients and ask yourself if you are charging enough.

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