Pass on the Positive (WT405)

Pass on the Positive (WT405)

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WT 405 Pass on the positive

One of the scores we use in the Integrity and Values profile measures Appreciation. This is the degree to which you can give both positive and negative feedback. The creator, Jennifer Elliott, says that if you can’t give negative feedback, you’ll also be unlikely to give positive feedback. 

This week I’ve noticed a theme around giving positive feedback and accepting it. 

What I’ve found is that often we do receive positive feedback but we don’t take it on board for a number of reasons:  

  1. We don’t believe we deserve it
  1. We don’t believe the person saying it
  1. We dismiss it as soon as it’s said, or
  1. We don’t even hear it

There are plenty of other reasons as well and you can make up your own list. 

Today I want to encourage you to both pass on positive feedback and also accept it when you receive it. 

And when I say pass on positive feedback, I am including yourself in that. 

This week I presented a workshop for the Real Estate Academy and I took notice of my reaction to positive feedback. I’ve been working on this for myself to allow myself to hear it and accept it and I am so happy to say that at the end of the workshop, not only did I not beat myself up for all the things I think I could have done differently or better, I actually acknowledged to myself that I did a good job and was happy with it AND I accepted the compliments that came my way from the participants and organiser as well. 

It has also been interesting to notice people’s reactions when we show them their videos. Most people report not liking seeing or hearing themselves on camera.  They don’t like the way they look, etc. This is easily overcome if you think about the fact that people are looking at you every day and that doesn’t stop us from going out and doing our thing each day. 

This week I’d like you to focus on passing on the positive to yourself and to those around you. Really make a point to make sure they hear it and accept it. 

I’m including myself in this exercise and have passed it along to at least 5 people in the past 3 days, plus myself. 

Who can you pass some positive feedback to? 

Will you allow yourself to receive? 

And to finish, I wish you a happy Easter if you celebrate Easter and happy holidays if not.

SD #108 – The Value of Your Vision

SD #108 – The Value of Your Vision

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Join us this week as Vision Mastery Strategist, Meshell Baker shares her 6 Steps to help you eliminate the perfectionism that is prohibiting you from taking action. Instead of offering you options of what to DO, Meshell presents a process of how to BE.  When you choose first who you are BEING, then line up your behaviors, your DOINGS will become effortless and efficient!  Becoming the BEST uniquely you possible…is contagious and profitable.

Is Your Marketing Message Clear? (WT404)

Is Your Marketing Message Clear? (WT404)

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WT 404 Is your marketing message clear?

I just finished presenting a masterclass – How to Generate More Leads with Video. 

One of the things I’ve found is that many entrepreneurs and small business owners have huge difficulty articulating what it is they do. 

I thought I’d share my formula with you for crafting a Marketing Message to attract your Ideal Client (IC). 

Firstly you need to identify your Ideal Client. 

Who is he or she? 

Think about your best clients that you work with now or have in the past. What are they like? What attributes do they have? Describe them. Give them a name. 

What are their pain points? What are their Fears, Frustrations, Challenges and Doubts?  

What do they want and need? What do they desire?  

How old are they? Where do they live and work? How much money do they earn? 

Spend some time on this because you will use this to craft your message. 

What credibility and authority do you have for doing what you do?  Is it length of time or experience? Maybe you’ve won awards or have other accolades, for example my TV show is consistently rated number 1 or 2 for viewers on the Empowered Connections channel.  

What is your offer or invitation and finally what is your promise? 

Now that you have all this information, put it together and edit it so that it takes no more than 1-5 minutes to say. 

This is your script for your Personal Branding Video. 

Check out my Linked In profile (www.linkedin.com/in/shirleydalton) or www.themarketingvideoagency.com to see my examples. 

This is something we help you create when you join us for the Powerful Marketing Video Event and it’s something you can use to market yourself 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. 

It sounds easy and the formula helps to simplify it, however what I’ve found is that you can’t see the label from inside the jar and participants tell us that one of our biggest points of difference is how we help them to craft their message. 

Your task this week is to have a go at crafting your message. Use the formula above and see if you can create a script. If you do, send it through and I’ll personally have a look at it and give you feedback. Email it to shirley@themarketingvideoagency.com.

SD#107 – How to Build Camera Confidence for Entrepreneurs

SD#107 – How to Build Camera Confidence for Entrepreneurs

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If you’re not using video to market your business, you’re missing out. This week we talk with Actress, Expert in Camera Confidence for Entrepreneurs, Founder of The Authentic Entrepreneur and Creator of the VIBES Method, Ali Faulkner who shares how to get in touch with your authentic self so you can show up confidently on camera and connect with your audience, generate leads and grow your business.

Stop Pushing Me (WT403)

Stop Pushing Me (WT403)

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WT 403 Stop pushing me

When I started High School, it was “cool” for girls to shave their legs. It was a long time ago before waxing became the norm. 

I asked my mum if I could borrow her razor. 

“What do you want that for?” she asked. 

“To shave my legs of course”, expecting that she should have known that all the cool girls shave their legs. 

“No! You’re not shaving your legs,” she almost screamed at me. 

“Why not? Everybody else is,” I cried. 

“You’re not and that’s all there is to it,” and with that I was dismissed. 

Now being the strong willed, pig headed and rebellious character that I can be, what do you think I did? 

You guessed it. I went into the bathroom and I shaved my legs. 

Not content to just silently call victory to myself, I flaunted the act by going and standing next to my mother who was on her hands and knees cleaning up a spill on the floor. 

I simply stood there until she figured something was up. Without looking up at me, she turned to face my legs, ran her hand up my leg to make sure she wasn’t just seeing things and then slapped my leg so hard that it stung and repeated, “I told you not to shave your legs”. 

Mission accomplished, I grinned and walked off. 

And I’ve been regretting that decision for over 40 years.  

So what has this story got to do with “Stop Pushing Me”? 

For me, it’s about knowing myself and being able to respond rather than react. 

My rebellious streak has gotten me into trouble (a lot). 

If I feel pushed to do something or am told I am not allowed to do something, my rebellious nature will arc up. 

Thankfully, over the years I have come to recognise it and have learned to manage myself with awareness and self talk, although the initial feelings can still be quite strong. 

And why is this the topic for this week’s thought? 

Following on from last week’s thought, “Every team needs a leader”, it’s important for you to know your people and to know when to encourage, push or support. 

It can be tricky to know the difference and timing is everything. The last thing you want to do is push someone when they are at breaking point and needing some care and attention and by the same token, neither do you want to let them off the hook when they do need to step up and take responsibility and do the work. 

You’ll know which way to go if you tune in to your people and listen to what they are telling you, both verbally and non-verbally. 

And now, if you’ll excuse me, I have to go shave my legs.

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