Before we get into this week’s thought, I just want to acknowledge the readers who answered the challenge last week and messaged me with the tasks they wanted to be held accountable for.
Well done! All were completed in the week, so just to remind us of the benefit of having a coach, I call it the “BAQS System” because a coach, has your “back”. A coach can help to:
- Identify your Blind Spots
- Be your Accountability partner
- Ask quality Questions, and
- Provide suggestion on Strategies that you may not have thought of.
Now to this week:
This week I presented the first of 6 online presentations.
Whilst I’ve practised and practised and practised, I still felt very nervous.
One strategy that I use to reduce the nervousness is to repeat over and over, “If You Get Nervous, Focus On Service”. I believe this originally came from Doreen Virtue.
So let’s unpack that.
Often our nervousness comes because we are focussing on ourselves. We are concerned to:
- Look good
- To have others think well of us
- To not make mistakes
This is the wrong focus to have.
Ask yourself, why are you doing the thing that makes you nervous?
In most cases, it’s because you want to help others.
This could be through an uplifting song or play. It could be teaching and presenting some information. It could be speaking in public. It could be playing a sport.
No matter what the motivation is, keep in mind, “If you get nervous, focus on service”.
Focus on the people that you can help and why you are helping them.
Focus on the audience for your concert or play.
Focus on your team and/or the spectators when playing a sport.
This little mantra and change of focus and mindset works.
Forget about yourself and focus on the reason why you are doing it and for whom.
Let me know what makes you feel nervous and how you can apply this great little reminder.
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