Ross and I were having a conversation and discussing passive aggressive behaviours.
You know the ones; the sarcasm, the “it’s meant to be funny, but it’s really not”.
Without any prompting, Ross admitted, “I know I’m Like That – I can be passive aggressive”.
I smiled. Having been married to him for 36 years, I too know that he can be like that.
Being aware of it, doesn’t mean you’re going to do anything about it.
In fact, the 3 most dangerous words anyone can say are, “That’s Just Me”.
Why?
Because they are making no apology for the way they are and it usually comes when they realise or someone points out that they could behave differently.
You might be agreeing with the statement “That’s Just Me” and quite happy to continue to behave in your ways and that’s ok if those ways are positive toward yourself and others.
It becomes a problem when “I Know I’m Like That” and “That’s Just Me” is used as excuse not to change.
If you think about it, are you being stubborn? Are you making a statement?
Receiving feedback is not always comfortable, however I encourage you, the next time you receive some feedback on how you could change your behaviour, please don’t resist. Take on the feedback, if you want to grow and develop and enjoy even better relationships.
We all have a choice.
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