See It When You Believe It (WT435)

See It When You Believe It (WT435)

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by Shirley Dalton | 26 Oct, 2018 | Blog, Mindset

WT 435 See it when you believe it

Often when I am coaching with clients and sharing something I’ve learned or asking them a question to help them reflect on what’s going on for them, a little voice will speak to me inside my head.

It asks me, “Are you listening to this?”

They say (whomever “they” are), “We teach what we need to learn”.

If that’s true, I need to learn a heck of a lot.

Today’s thought is no exception.

I am the one who needs to hear this message the most.

I remember years ago, Wayne Dyer wrote a book called, “You’ll See it When You Believe It”. At the time it was a ground breaking book.

Most people wanted to correct the title, thinking it was a typo.

Turns out Dyer was correct. He was referring to manifestation; The Law of Attraction and any other words you want to use to describe our ability to create what we desire.

Now that sounds easy and this is what I’ve been struggling with for the past few months and why I need to write this thought for myself.

I’ve had difficulty believing that I can create what I want. I seem to have lost my way; lost my faith and I know that having faith is the most important thing I need. I often encourage my clients by reminding them, “It’s not our job to know the how, only to know the what and why”.

Lately I’ve been doubting. I’ve been wanting to control things.

I haven’t been able to see “how” things are going to work out the way I want them to.

I’ve been relapsing into my old pattern of wanting to control everything.

Today’s thought is a wake-up call and reminder; I’ll see it when I believe it.

So I made myself a list of just some of the techniques I know and use to restore my faith and get me back on track to believing in myself and the power of “The Great Something” as Dr Joe Vitale refers to God, the Universe, etc.

The point for today is this, “You’ll see it when you believe it”, so do what you can to believe it.

Here’s my list. Contact me if you’d like to know more about any or all of the below:

  1. Tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique)
  1. Ho’oponopono
  1. Decision Matrix
  1. Visualisation
  1. Affirmations
  1. Afformations
  1. Meditation
  1. The One Command

Just quickly, I’ll share The One Command by Asara Lovejoy. Asara found herself in a similar situation, not believing and not manifesting, so she asked for guidance from spirit and received “The One Command”. In a nutshell (and there are a few steps to getting to this point), you simply take the pressure off from having to know the “How”, by commanding and visualising, “I don’t know how… (fill in the blank with what you want). All I know is… (I am now or I have now) and I am fulfilled.”

I love this strategy because it releases the pressure of having to know the “How” and restores faith in The Great Something.

Thanks for listening. I needed this little pep talk.

Make Yourself a Micro-Commitment (WT432)

Make Yourself a Micro-Commitment (WT432)

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by Shirley Dalton | 5 Oct, 2018 | Blog, Mindset

WT 432 Make yourself a Micro-commitment

This week I am celebrating. 

I passed my exam (100% and bragging) and am now an official graduate of the ASK Method Masterclass which is all about asking your market the RIGHT questions to figure out exactly WHAT they want to buy and exactly HOW to sell it to them in order to serve them and help them solve their problems. 

But that’s not the topic for this week.  

I wanted to share one of the concepts I learned, which helped me to get the work done so I could pass. 

It’s called a “micro-commitment”: 

  • A small incremental step to move you (or others) toward taking a specific action without scaring yourself (or them) off in the process 
  • Based on neuroscientific evidence that any sort of change, good or bad, is perceived as a threat by the brain which kicks off the fight, flight or freeze response. To avoid triggering that response you want to ask yourself “What is the next possible step I can ask myself or someone else to take, that is so small, it is literally impossible to fail?” 

For example, one small micro-commitment I made was to turn on the computer and open the lesson.  That’s not something I could fail and it was only a tiny commitment. Of course, once I had turned on the computer and opened the lesson, I completed it. 

By making micro-commitments we can avoid feeling overwhelmed which can lead us to procrastinate (freeze). 

Every time you move into action you move closer to your goal, so pick an action that you can start on today, no matter how small. Remember you can use the power of micro-commitments to hack your own progress  

What is something you could do right now, to take action towards a goal you have, that you could not fail? 

Whatever it is, make yourself a micro-commitment now. 

Keep up your momentum. 

Remember “Done is Better than Perfect”.  (It doesn’t have to be perfect, it just has to be done.)

Focus On the Bigger Picture (WT430)

Focus On the Bigger Picture (WT430)

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by Shirley Dalton | 21 Sep, 2018 | Blog, Mindset

WT 430 Focus on the bigger picture

When I was studying to become a school teacher, I learnt one of the most impactful lessons of my life. 

It was during my practicum at a high school in a seaside community.  

Enthusiastic and passionate about learning and education and wanting to deliver the most fun and informative lessons to my students, I found myself preparing lessons and creating games well into the early hours of the morning before heading off to school to teach them. 

One particular class was scheduled to be tested and I was devastated with their results. 

“How could they not study? How could they not learn this?” I cried to my supervising teacher. “I put so much time and effort into making their revision lessons so much fun.” 

“Shirley, it’s not about you”, she said. “These kids have a different set of values to you. They don’t value education. They would rather surf and smoke pot.”

This was totally confronting for me. I experienced so many emotions. I wanted to give up. I wanted to scream at them. I resented them for not appreciating the effort I had gone to to make their lessons interesting. I was distressed for them that their future depended on them learning and none of this seemed to matter to them. 

“Shirley, if you are going to make it in this system, you have to accept that the kids you will be teaching will not all share the same values as you, and that despite that, you still need to show up and give your best effort”, counselled my wise and experienced supervising teacher. 

Sadly, I accepted her advice. She was right. I needed to focus on the bigger picture. I was there to teach and do the best job I could, to help as many as I could. 

It’s been 30 years since I learned that lesson and it still applies today.  

The people you are working with in your organisation may not share the same values as you. 

That doesn’t make them wrong and you right. It doesn’t mean that you have to convince them, rather, focus on the bigger picture.    

What outcome do you want to achieve? What is best for the organisation and your people? 

Focus on that.  

Invest your time, energy, passion and enthusiasm into achieving the end result. 

Focus on the bigger picture.

Learn It With a Story (WT424)

Learn It With a Story (WT424)

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by Shirley Dalton | 10 Aug, 2018 | Blog, Mindset

WT 424 Learn it with a story

A friend of mine, Janet, recently enrolled in a program with Jim Kwik to enhance memory and learning strategies. Part of her homework was to teach someone what she was learning. Of course I was a willing participant, both from a learning perspective and also to support her and be her Accountability Buddy.

Since I too am required to share, I thought it would be a good topic this week. 

Here’s a little story I made up. Read the story and I’ll explain what it really means. 

“The SALT got poured over the chocolate coated MAGNUM icecream and fell into the TIN FOIL that was buried in the SAND. At night the glow worms glowed PHOSPHORESCENT YELLOW and stunk like BLEACH, which made us all go “ARRGGGHGHHHH”, until Peter came along with POTATO chips and chocolate MILK which was good for our bones. 

Notice the words in upper case: SALT, MAGNUM, TIN FOIL, SAND, PHOSPHORESCENT, YELLOW, BLEACH, ARRGGGGHHGGGHGH, POTATO, MILK. 

These words relate to the elements in the Periodic Table numbered 11-20. 

The trick with memory according to Jim and Janet is to make it relevant to something you know so you can remember it easily and to make up a story.

Salt – Sodium, Magnum – Magnesium, Tin Foil – Aluminium, Sand – Silicon, Phosphorescent – Phosphorus, Yellow – Sulfur, Bleach – Chlorine, Arrggghghhgh – Argon, Potato – Potassium, Milk – Calcium.

You could make up any story. Janet’s story was quite different to mine because she has different triggers.

It’s a cool little tip if you have to remember steps in a process or a list of items or even names. I’m still working on it for bigger chunks of information. I’m keen to learn so I can pass this to participants in my leadership program when they have to recite a very special poem.

Your homework this week is to give it a go. See if you can make up a story to remember the first 10 elements: Hydrogen, Helium, Lithium, Beryllium, Boron, Carbon, Nitrogen, Oxygen, Fluorine, Neon. As a hint, your story could include balloons and batteries or trees or diamonds.

See how you go.

What Do You Need to Measure? (WT423)

What Do You Need to Measure? (WT423)

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by Shirley Dalton | 3 Aug, 2018 | Blog, Mindset

WT 423 What do you need to measure?

You’ve heard the saying, “What gets measured, gets managed”. 

I confess I didn’t quite understand the impact of this statement until recently. 

I set myself a goal of doing exercise at least 4 times each week. 

Of course I never feel like doing exercise; it’s very easy for me to make something else more important. Consequently I wasn’t meeting my goal. 

I decided to use the calendar on the wall and simply place a “tick” on the days I did exercise. 

It soon became very obvious how many days I was wimping out. 

Being able to see the ticks (or lack of) actually started to motivate me and soon it became a game between Ross and me, as to which one of us got to place the tick on the calendar. 

Last month I met my goal and exercised 4 times every week, even 5 times on some weeks. 

I was astounded at how simple this was. 

I have now added a few more things to the calendar to remind me to do them. 

How about you? 

What do you need to measure? 

What’s your system and if you need to, who can you ask to hold you accountable?

You Must Write it Down (WT420)

You Must Write it Down (WT420)

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by Shirley Dalton | 13 Jul, 2018 | Blog, Mindset

WT 420 You have to write it down

 According to Brian Tracy, the best research shows that, less than 3 percent of Americans have written goals, and less than 1 percent review and rewrite their goals on a daily basis. If we use these statistics as a generalisation, it shows that very few people write down their goals. 

Now I am not about to tell you to create sophisticated goals or spreadsheets or budgets; it’s not my thing. What I will say though is you have to write it down. If you want something, you have to write it down somewhere.  Somewhere being the important point. 

One of my fabulous clients shared with me how he had set his intention for a monthly income of a minimum amount of $6,600 AUD. He documented this in an informal agreement with his partner and within a month or so he rang to tell me that he had been offered an opportunity that would pay him a monthly retainer of $5,000 USD. When he did the sums he laughed out loud because the currency exchange was about $6,600 AUD. 

On 12 December 2017, I wrote two cheques to myself and placed them on the bathroom mirror. One cheque was for $10,000 for a VIP consultation in the Bahamas. You know I recently went to the Bahamas. What you may not know is that I won the consultation and so I now have a big pink tick and the word “Done”, written across the cheque.  

During the last couple of days I have been reciting an affirmation that says, “I allow the universe in and my ego out.” I have been very focussed on being open to messages from the universe. I wrote this affirmation once, as it came to me. This morning I picked a card from Deepak Chopra’s Success Cards and it read, “My objective is not to get rid of the ego, simply to be aware of how it leads me and where.” On the front, the abbreviated affirmation read, “I am aware of my ego.” I laughed loudly when I read this.  The universe does indeed have a sense of humour.  

To top it off, we phoned the US tax department today to enquire about the progress of a tax refund we’ve been waiting on for a year. The lady informed us it had been posted on 22nd June and no surprise, there it was at the Post Office today. 

My point. You don’t have to write it a thousand times, although that can help. You don’t have to write it neatly. As long as you know what you want, you must write it down. You can even type it once into your Notes on your phone. There is something magical and tangible about the energy and vibration of writing things down. 

I forget where I learned this, but the energy and vibration increases from thought to spoken word to written word and of course to taking inspired action. 

What is it you want? 

Have you written it down or are you in the bucket with the 97% who have not?

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