I don’t know about you, but this week I’ve been resitting a training course I attended about 12 months ago and it’s like I never attended.

As we went through the exercises, I kept thinking, “I don’t remember this. I can’t recall doing that before.”

I’m guessing this has happened to you. How come?

Because this week I presented the final session for a 6 month internal customised training program for a client and as we revised what we had learned over the period, it was clear that some of the participants, like me with my course, hadn’t fully taken in the information when first presented.

As I reflect on this, I’m reminded of past participants of the Leading Yourself and Leading Others experience who have attended more than once. Their feedback has been similar to my experience.

“I’ve picked up so much more this time around.  I’m getting more and more distinctions.”

So, if you’ve already graduated from our LSLO experience, it might be time to consider attending again.

The real lesson here is to keep practising and improving.

My favourite quote in the whole world is by English Philosopher, Herbert Spencer, who said, “The Great Aim of Education Is Not Knowledge but Action”.

It’s not enough for us to attend training and pay attention and learn and then think we “know it”. 

We only know it when we embody it.

We demonstrate that we have embodied the knowledge when we actually use it, ie. we do the thing we have learned. We take the action.

For example, you can read a book on how to swim. You can watch a video on how to ride a bike. You can watch a live demonstration of both of these things, however you will not be able to swim or ride a bike until you get in the pool or on the bike and start swimming or riding.

It’s not rocket science.

Do the thing. Keep practising and improving.

 

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My 87 year old uncle lives alone.

A few years back he was diagnosed with Guillain-Barre syndrome in which he experienced muscle weakness of the legs.

Over time, his legs became more painful and his mobility was severely restricted.

Unsteady on his feet, when he fell, he was unable to get himself up.

Despite having a special alarm that would summon the ambulance or other help within an hour if he fell, he refused to carry it.

Hence the “pigheaded” description.

No amount of pleading, arguing, bribing etc. would get him to use the alarm.

And this week he ended up in the hospital after having fallen through the night in the bathroom. There he lay for approximately 17 hours in nothing but a pair of pyjamas on the cold tiles.

If only he had agreed to wear the alarm, he could have been quickly helped.

So what has this got to do with you?

Well, according to Google AI review, “Pigheadedness refers to the quality of being stubbornly unyielding in one’s opinions or plans, often to the point of being unreasonable or annoying. It’s a characteristic of someone who resists change and is unwilling to consider different perspectives.”

If you’re honest with yourself, are there times when you are pigheaded?

Do you resist change at work or at home?

Are you willing or unwilling to consider different perspectives?

Are there times when you are unyielding in your opinion or plans?

If so, please reconsider.

Please take my uncle’s experience as a warning.

You can be too pigheaded.

And one last point, being pigheaded doesn’t only affect you. It affects those around you, who often have to clean up your mess or spend time supporting you being inconvenienced for something that could have been prevented.

As they say in America, “I’m just sayin’”

Let’s all take a look at ourselves and our attitudes and behaviours and ask ourselves, am I being too pigheaded?

If so, you know what to do.

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When you say you’re committed to (fill in the blank), have you ever wondered how your body knows you are committed?

This week I’ve been studying with Benjamin J. Harvey and he gave a mind-blowing explanation of the Law of Commitment.

In fact, we are biologically designed to succeed if we follow the Law of Commitment.

In your body, you have cells called Astrocytes.

Astrocytes respond to two things. They respond to what’s called increased impulse traffic where the impulses are travelling down the same neural networks over and over again as well as taking urgent action.

With a couple of coaching processes we can trick the astrocytes by combining increased traffic with urgent action.

Say you have a habit that you want to accelerate. If you did the same thing every day, once a day for a year, you would have “zapped” your neurons (electrical chemical impulse travelling down the axons) just 365 times. But if you sit down and do 1000 zaps in a sitting, this is the equivalent of taking 3 years to form the habit. So you are accelerating the number of times the neural network fires, causing the astrocytes to wake up and ask, “What’s going on?”

The astrocytes then wake up your glial cells called Oligodendrocytes which wrap your axons with myelin.  It’s the myelin that is responsible for your ability to learn and retain the habit. The myelin insulates your neurons so the impulses can travel faster, in fact, up to 100x faster through a neuron that’s wrapped with myelin compared to one that isn’t.

With a little bit of habit hacking, you can actually achieve your results 5x faster.

Think about it this way. The only way to know that you’re committed is by your speed of response.

If you have kids you’ll see this by how quickly they put on their shoes to go to a friend’s party compared to how long it takes to put on school shoes. They’re committed to going to the party.

For yourself, notice how quickly you get into action to respond to an SMS to a person you’re committed to vs someone you’re not committed to. The same goes for your work. You speed up your response to the tasks you’re committed to vs those that you aren’t.

This is absolutely fascinating.

We can say we are committed, however now we know how to tell if we’re really committed and we also know how we can hack the system to accelerate our results.

Let me know what you’re committed to and how quickly you’re getting your results. Reach out if you’d like to accelerate your results.

 

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