If You Want It, Let People Know (WT675)

If You Want It, Let People Know (WT675)

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by Shirley Dalton | 2 Jun, 2023 | Blog, Mindset

WT 675 If you want it, let people know

When it comes to goal achievement, I’ve been taught a couple of different philosophies.

Some say tell everyone, others say tell no-one.  The reason, they say, for not telling anyone is that you don’t want the naysayers dampening your enthusiasm or sabotaging your efforts, or worse, talking you out of what you want.

My mum used to say, “Opinions are like bums, everyone’s got one”, reinforcing the idea that we shouldn’t share our hopes, dreams and goals for fear that others will have an opinion about it.

For me, it depends on the goal. Some goals are worthy of letting others know, so they can help you. Others, that may be a little out of the ordinary may be best kept to yourself until they show signs of being achieved.

Here’s an example of wanting something and letting people know.

When we bought the house last year it had a dilapidated old pergola area out the back on top of pavers. It was ugly, rotting and a safety issue.

Ross started to pull it down.

As he removed the shingles from the roof and the rotting deck, we could see that the frame of the  pergola was structurally sound.

“Rather than pull it all down, what if we turned it into a fernery?” I suggested.

Ross thought about it and decided that could work. It would be Ross’ fernery because he has been loving growing his vegetables and flowers recently.

“How about we have a game with the fernery?” I continued.

“What sort of game?” he asked.

“Well, what if we made a rule that all the plants that grow in the fernery are from cuttings or seeds or gifts from others and that we don’t purchase any plants for it.”

He thought about it and agreed and yesterday he was given some cuttings and seeds that had been sprouted by Peta. He was over the moon. “Our first plants for the fernery, thank you Peta.”

The fernery is going to be a very special space because it will contain plants that were given with love and that have a story behind them. We imagine ourselves sharing it and telling others where each of the plants came from.

Whenever it’s appropriate, we share about the vision for the fernery and we’ve been amazed at the support and encouragement we’ve received. It’s also amazing to see how many others are into gardening and very happy to share what they know.

So, back to you. What’s something you want that you are happy to share with others? What’s something that you would like support with? What’s that something special that you want to create?

If you want it, let people know.

P.S. Our next Leading Yourself and Leading Others Experience starts Thursday 3rd August. Save $1,000. Early bird discount ends 30th June. Thursdays, 3rd, 17th, 24th and 31st August. Find out more here https://shirleydalton.com/leading-yourself-leading-others-may2020/.

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The Goal Isn’t Big Enough (WT674)

The Goal Isn’t Big Enough (WT674)

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by Shirley Dalton | 26 May, 2023 | Blog, Mindset

WT 674 The Goal is not big enough

Ross and I have been thinking about and discussing our goals since we completed The Silva Method Mind Control course a few weeks ago.

We’ve been keen to implement our new tools to create and manifest what we want.

Something I discovered as I was working on my goals was that they were not big enough to be motivating or exciting.

I was discussing this with a colleague and mentioned that having a goal of 12 people in my August Leading Yourself and Leading Others experience wasn’t a big enough goal.

I recalled the goal we had of buying the motorhome and going travelling. We visualised. We acted as if. We went to caravan and camping shows. We joined the Caravan Association, even before we had purchased Contessa (the motorhome). We were totally focused on the what and the why. We didn’t concern ourselves with the how and miraculously everything fell into place.

It was a similar situation with buying our home. We wrote down a list of all the things we wanted in the home including the aspect, the number of bedrooms, the outlook etc. and miraculously it appeared.

In both cases we had made a decision and set worthy goals.

Back to my colleague, he suggested I reframe the goal for Leading Yourself and Leading Others and set a goal to serve 200 people over the next 2 years or even 1000 people over the next 5 years. Now that’s a worthy goal.

That’s a big enough goal.

That lights me up. That gets me into action because I love working with people and sharing what I have learned. My mission is to inspire, educate and support you to be, do, have and feel what you want. Oh wow! When I imagine helping that many people I get goose bumps (or spiritual bumps as Jeanine Sciacca calls them).  They’re like a message from the universe that this is a spiritual truth.

So, with my decision made to help at least that many people over the next few years, I am asking for your help. Who do you know who could use a dose of Shirley or as clients say, Get Shirlified?

I’m now in action. I’m visualising. I’m marketing. I’m having those conversations because that’s a goal worth pursuing.

I imagine a world where we can all have what we want.

I imagine a world where we are all assertive and when we express our desires, the people in our network support us. They say, “Great, how I can help you get there or get that?”

I imagine a world where we have great relationships because we listen to each other and we speak our truth and we know how to fight clean.

That’s my mission, vision and goal.

What’s yours?

Is it big enough to get you into action or more importantly, as my mentor Lou Heckler once said, if it doesn’t scare you, it’s not big enough.

Reply to this email and let me know what your goal is. I’d love to support you.

P.S. Our next Leading Yourself and Leading Others Experience starts Thursday 3rd August. Early bird discount will end 30th June. Mark your calendar for Thursdays, 3rd, 17th, 24th and 31st August. More details to come.

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Mind Control – Yours or Mine (WT673)

Mind Control – Yours or Mine (WT673)

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by Shirley Dalton | 19 May, 2023 | Blog, Mindset

WT 673 Mind control, yours or mine

You know how Ross and I love to learn and grow and develop.

Last weekend we travelled to Sydney to complete the 4 day immersion into The Silva Mind Control Method.

I was surprised and fascinated at how many people backed away from me a little, when I mentioned what we were studying.

“Who’s mind control?” they would ask.

Smiling, I replied, “My mind. I can’t control your mind, nor would I want to.”

The Silva Method was developed by Jose Silva back in the 1940’s and he began teaching in the mid 1960’s. Since then, millions of people, ordinary people, business people, medical people, academic people have graduated.

Don’t be frightened by the words, “mind control”. This isn’t something out of a fictional sci-fi movie.

Mind control is about controlling our thoughts. It’s about paying attention to the words we say.

It’s about creating the life we want to create.

It includes learning about energy and how everything is connected. It’s about understanding the various frequencies of our brainwaves and how best to use them: Beta, Alpha, Theta and Delta.

One fascinating study we watched on video demonstrated what Cleve Backster calls “Primary Perception” or the connection between all living things. He conducted an experiment where he observed a plant’s response to the death of a brine shrimp in another room through the use of a polygraph.

His results convinced him that plants demonstrated telepathic awareness. He argued that plants perceived human intentions, and as he began to investigate further, he also reported finding that other human thoughts and emotions caused reactions in plants, which could be recorded by a polygraph instrument.

There have been mixed reactions to Backster’s claims, however during the weekend, we developed our own intuitive processes to be able to find answers to questions and challenges we have.

This might sound a bit “woo woo” to you, however Ross and I believe this is knowledge that all of us can benefit from.

Another comment from the facilitator that also helped me to further understand the difference between conscious manifestation and surrendering to life is what she called “the paradox of universal laws”. Universal laws seem to exhibit paradoxes, where for example, we can manifest and create what we want and at the same time also acknowledge and accept that at times we need to surrender.

So, what’s the point of this week’s thought?

To open your mind and awareness. To encourage you to think outside the box. To cheer you on as you create and manifest the life, business, career, health, relationships and abundance that you desire.

I’m off now to relax and go deep into the alpha state where possibilities become manifest.

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Me Too Is A Roadblock (WT672)

Me Too Is A Roadblock (WT672)

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by Shirley Dalton | 12 May, 2023 | Blog, Communication Skills, Mindset

WT 672 Me too, is a roadblock

Ever have one of those conversations where you regret not listening more?

That happened to me this week.

I was on a call with a colleague and I asked how she was.

“I’m feeling quite overwhelmed today”, she said with a sigh.

“Oh, tell me about it”, I jumped in. “Me too.”

The conversation moved on to other topics.

We hung up.

I heard this voice in my head, “Me too is a roadblock.”

O.M.G. I then spent the rest of the day belting myself up for not doing the one thing I am supposed to be good at and that I teach and that is, active listen.

Without thinking I used a roadblock.

A roadblock stops the flow of conversation.

It doesn’t help anyone.

It doesn’t help the relationship either.

According to Gordon International Training, there are 12 different types of roadblocks.

“Me too” could be classed as “Reassuring or Sympathising” which is one of the 12.

It’s important to understand that sympathising, praising, agreeing, changing topics etc. whilst we mean well, are not helpful when people are experiencing challenges and what they need is someone to listen to them.

One of the best things I learned when I did my Lifeline Telephone Counselling training was that the person with the problem is the best person to solve it because they know all the reasons why your solution won’t work.

Please use today’s thought as a reminder to listen more; to be present and give your attention to others.

Saying “Me too” is a roadblock.

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When You’re All Over The Place (WT671)

When You’re All Over The Place (WT671)

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by Shirley Dalton | 5 May, 2023 | Blog, Leadership, Mindset, Systems and Processes

WT 671 When you are all over the place

I have a feeling this week’s thought will resonate with many of you.

Let’s talk about how to focus when you’re all over the place; when you’re feeling overwhelmed and you have too much to do.

You know that horrible feeling you get when you just can’t focus. You can’t seem to prioritise or get into your tasks.

What do you do?

I have a few “go to” strategies that I turn to:

  1. I tap. (I use Emotional Freedom Technique, not tap dancing.)
  2. I breathe.
  3. I meditate.
  4. I go for a walk.
  5. I sit and have a cup of tea and stare out the window.
  6. I chant the phrases for Ho’oponopono.
  7. I write.

When we’re in this state, which David Bayer calls the “Primal” state, we can’t think. 

We can’t solve our problems.

We’re not creative because all our body and brain are doing is looking to survive.

Should I stay and fight? Should I run? Should I freeze?

When this happens, the first thing to do is to stop what you are doing and notice that you are in the primal state.

Awareness is the first step to moving out of it.

Take a breath. Calm yourself.

It sounds counter intuitive because you have so much to do and yet you’ll achieve far more and be more efficient and effective if you take a few minutes for yourself.

Another strategy that helps me is what I call my “Data Dump” method. I list everything that’s on my mind.

If I can, I use the whiteboard.

When I can see it, I can prioritise it.

I create a plan for when things have to be done.

I look to see who else can help. What can I delegate or request support for or negotiate an extended deadline?

Allowing yourself to stay in the primal state is a choice. It’s similar to worry.

There are many strategies and tools that will help you to focus and get back into the “Powerful” state.

What will you choose?

If you’d like to learn more, our next Leading Yourself and Leading Others Experience starts next week or you may prefer individual coaching.

Remember, next time you can’t focus and you’re all over the place. Stop. Become Aware. Choose.

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