Are there things you want to do that you talk yourself out of?
This was the case for David last week.
As we talked he shared that he wanted to become a business coach.
He had experience, results and big achievements in Sales, Systems and Strategy.
He’d worked in the real estate industry and manufacturing.
“What’s stopping you?” I asked.
“Well, I can’t really go into the real estate industry”, he replied.
“How come?”
“There are so many other coaches in that industry already” he said, as he began to list half a dozen names.
I knew the people he was referring to and even added a few more names.
“And they’re not all the same”, I said.
“No”, he agreed. “Some you either love or hate but there’s no room for me.”
“That sounds like a limiting belief”, I offered.
“Yes, but….” He replied.
I remembered the story of Kirsty or Kristy. I can’t remember her name or all the details but what I do remember is that she was a real estate agent in Darwin who moved to Tasmania and absolutely blitzed the industry.
She had had the same thoughts initially. That there were already too many agents, so how could she be successful and yet she was. In fact, she became so successful by doing things her way that she ended up teaching others.
So what has this got to do with hamburgers?
As I explained to David, “I don’t always want a hamburger”.
He looked at me quizzically.
“Do you sometimes get takeaway food?” I asked.
“Yes”, still puzzled.
“Do you always get the same thing or do you mix it up? For example, McDonalds, Pizza Hut, Fish and Chips, Mexican, Middle Eastern Kebabs, Chinese, Indian?”
“I mix it up”, he said.
“Exactly! You don’t always want a hamburger”, I said.
“All those examples are choices of convenience foods.”
“All the coaches in the real estate industry that you mentioned are choices.”
“Principals and agents don’t always want hamburgers.”
There is plenty of room for everyone.
He is based in New Zealand.
All those coaches can’t serve everyone and everyone doesn’t want the same thing.
I encouraged him to go for what he truly wants and to let go of the things he is telling himself that are stopping him from getting what he wants.
The same goes for you.
Listen to the silly excuses you are telling yourself that are stopping you from going for what you want.
Remember, we don’t always want a hamburger.
People want choice.
Put yourself out there and give them the choice.
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