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If You Want It, Let People Know (WT675)
When it comes to goal achievement, I’ve been taught a couple of different philosophies. Some say tell everyone, others say tell no-one. The reason, they say, for not telling anyone is that you don’t want the naysayers dampening your enthusiasm or sabotaging your efforts, or worse, talking you out of what you want. My mum used to say, “Opinions are like bums, everyone’s got one”, reinforcing the idea that we shouldn’t share our hopes, dreams and goals for fear that others will have an opinion about it. For me, it depends on the goal. Some goals are worthy of letting others know, so they...
The Goal Isn’t Big Enough (WT674)
Ross and I have been thinking about and discussing our goals since we completed The Silva Method Mind Control course a few weeks ago. We’ve been keen to implement our new tools to create and manifest what we want. Something I discovered as I was working on my goals was that they were not big enough to be motivating or exciting. I was discussing this with a colleague and mentioned that having a goal of 12 people in my August Leading Yourself and Leading Others experience wasn’t a big enough goal. I recalled the goal we had of buying the motorhome and going travelling. We visualised. We acted...
Mind Control – Yours or Mine (WT673)
You know how Ross and I love to learn and grow and develop. Last weekend we travelled to Sydney to complete the 4 day immersion into The Silva Mind Control Method. I was surprised and fascinated at how many people backed away from me a little, when I mentioned what we were studying. “Who’s mind control?” they would ask. Smiling, I replied, “My mind. I can’t control your mind, nor would I want to.” The Silva Method was developed by Jose Silva back in the 1940’s and he began teaching in the mid 1960’s. Since then, millions of people, ordinary people, business people, medical people, academic...
Me Too Is A Roadblock (WT672)
Ever have one of those conversations where you regret not listening more? That happened to me this week. I was on a call with a colleague and I asked how she was. “I’m feeling quite overwhelmed today”, she said with a sigh. “Oh, tell me about it”, I jumped in. “Me too.” The conversation moved on to other topics. We hung up. I heard this voice in my head, “Me too is a roadblock.” O.M.G. I then spent the rest of the day belting myself up for not doing the one thing I am supposed to be good at and that I teach and that is, active listen. Without thinking I used a roadblock. A roadblock stops...
When You’re All Over The Place (WT671)
I have a feeling this week’s thought will resonate with many of you. Let’s talk about how to focus when you’re all over the place; when you’re feeling overwhelmed and you have too much to do. You know that horrible feeling you get when you just can’t focus. You can’t seem to prioritise or get into your tasks. What do you do? I have a few “go to” strategies that I turn to: I tap. (I use Emotional Freedom Technique, not tap dancing.) I breathe. I meditate. I go for a walk. I sit and have a cup of tea and stare out the window. I chant the phrases for Ho’oponopono. I write. When we’re in this...
Get Yourself Organised (WT670)
Get yourself organised or get someone to organise you. That may sound harsh, however it’s not meant to be. It’s meant to be practical and encouraging. The past few days Ross was preparing to get ready to go away for a few days on his motorbike. He was heading for a rally with some friends interstate. He decided he wanted to leave by 3:30pm. We were getting down to the wire. “Have you seen my gloves?” he yelled. “What sort of gloves? Aren’t your riding gloves next to your boots?” I answered. “No! Not those gloves. I want the waterproof gloves.” I had no idea what gloves he was referring...
I Took One For The Team (WT669)
What does that saying mean? “I took one for the team.” To me it’s about working as a team and using the strengths of each team member OR stepping up when a team member needs help OR doing something that needs to be done when another team member doesn’t want to do it. Tick, tick, tick. I took one for the team this week. We had seen evidence that we had rodents in the house. Yuk! We put baits out. We set a trap. The evidence seemed to stop. No noises in the ceiling and no gifts on the architraves or window sills and no smell. Yet! Ross showed me where there had been yukky little gifts left on...
No Thinking Is Required (WT668)
Last week I shared an activity that we do in the Leading Yourself and Leading Others experience. This week I’d like to talk about the aha’s and outcomes that participants gain from another activity. Whilst not sharing the details of the activity, I am hopeful that this week’s thought will get you thinking about how you make decisions. The activity is called “No Thinking Is Required, Only Action”. Participants are given a set of matchsticks and some instructions to complete the activity. They can ask for help if they need it. Insight number 1 – most won’t ask for help. Insight number 2 – if...
Be Assertive – Ask For What You Want (WT667)
The past few weeks I’ve been working with my editor, Kellie O’Brien, to write my second and third books on Knowing Yourself, Knowing Others and Developing Communication Skills to help you become a better leader. I was explaining some of the activities in the Leading Yourself and Leading Others experience to Kellie as we considered what to include and not include. “It’s like buying a record and wanting to go see the artist in concert”, I explained. I read Jack Canfield’s book, “The Success Principles – How to Get From Where You Are Now To Where You Want To Be” and couldn’t wait to sign up to...
You Don’t Need To Say That (WT666)
Have you ever noticed that the words we choose and how we say things can have a remarkable effect on others? I was just typing an email to a client and I started to type, “I called you yesterday and left a message”. As soon as I typed it, I realised, I don’t need to say that. The effect of saying that could make the receiver feel bad. She might feel guilty because she didn’t call me back. She might feel annoyed and frustrated because I reminded her that she didn’t do something. She might be angry with me for being passive aggressive and making her wrong. By typing that, I ran the risk of...