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Don’t Let Your G.O.A.L Become Your G.A.O.L (WT732)
This week’s topic might be a little thought provoking. I hope so. I received a link from my colleague Lee Woodward to listen to an interview he did with Charles Tarbey. Lee is widely known in the real estate industry and has been training principals and sales people for over 30 years. Charles is the Century 21 Australasia Chairman. Charles explained to Lee how destructive goals can be and how goals are really short term objectives on the way to achieving our dreams. Link below if you’d like to listen to the interview. As it turns out, I was coaching with a client, we’ll call him...
Separate The Decision From the Doing (WT731)
This week’s thought comes from Cham Tang, Co-Founder of Authentic Education. Cham is a marketing and productivity expert. He was conducting a group coaching session when someone asked about organising their time. Cham’s answer sparked something within me. He said, “Separate the decision from the doing”. At first, I didn’t understand it and neither did the questioner. “Separate the decision from the doing.” Lots of people waste time when they sit down to work because they spend time deciding what to work on. Decide before you sit down to work, so that when you sit down to work, you can get...
Perception Vs Intention (WT730)
Here’s a little story to help us see the difference between perception and intention. Ross and I go to the gym of a morning. Ross is generally ready before I am so he backs the car out of the garage and sits there with it idling. I put my shoes on and close the garage door and get in the car. For a while now, this behaviour has annoyed me. Ignoring all my communication skills for effective confrontation, this week I got in the car and said, “It gives me the s…s when you sit there with the car idling. I feel pressured to hurry up and get going and I don’t like it.” To which Ross replied,...
It’s Hard To Visualise (WT729)
We know how powerful visualisation can be. Remember the Harvard study of the piano players where researchers tested 3 groups: Piano players physically playing the piano over 5 days Piano players not playing but visualising playing the piano over 5 days Control group who had nothing to do with piano playing. The brain scans for the piano players were very similar, despite the second group not playing. This supports the idea that our brains don’t know the difference between what we might call reality (in the physical) and imagination. If we want to create a different outcome, we can use our...
14 Years – You Have The Answers (WT728)
Today we celebrate 14 years of writing a weekly thought and we haven’t missed one single week in all that time. I am very proud of this achievement. I am very proud of my commitment. As I reflect back over the years, having started my business in October 2006, both the business and the Weekly Thoughts have evolved. When I first started my business and attended networking events, people would ask me who I worked for. I didn’t know what to say, so I said, “myself”. That wasn’t a great answer. They asked what I did. I told them, “I help business owners streamline their systems and processes”....
I Don’t Want To Throw You Under The Bus (WT727)
Do you know what word usually follows this statement? “I don’t want to throw you under the bus, BUT” and then comes a negative comment. It’s as if you know what you’re about to say won’t be well received or appreciated. It’s a form of inoculation, letting the person know that something bad is following and yet saying it seems to justify the criticism we’re about to give. And it’s usually in a public setting, otherwise there is no need to say it. In my book, there is no reason to say it full-stop. Let’s take a look at two examples and you tell me which one you would prefer to receive. Imagine...
You Have To Dress For The Job You Want (WT726)
This week’s inspiration comes from one of my favourite clients and his Operations Coordinator. As I sat wondering what this week’s thought would be, Ray called to give me a business progress update. He started the conversation with, “I changed my life today”. “What did you do? Sell the business?” I asked. “No”, he replied. “I was vulnerable with my team and shared my vision for the business. I wanted them to see things from my perspective.” “Amazing!” Knowing Ray as I do, I asked him what the turning point was. “I have to give credit to Kim” he said. “When I shared my vision, she responded...
I Don’t Always Want A Hamburger (WT725)
Are there things you want to do that you talk yourself out of? This was the case for David last week. As we talked he shared that he wanted to become a business coach. He had experience, results and big achievements in Sales, Systems and Strategy. He’d worked in the real estate industry and manufacturing. “What’s stopping you?” I asked. “Well, I can’t really go into the real estate industry”, he replied. “How come?” “There are so many other coaches in that industry already” he said, as he began to list half a dozen names. I knew the people he was referring to and even added a few more names....
I’m A Persecutor (WT724)
In our leadership experiences we look at what Jennifer Elliot called “The Eternal Triangle of Hate”. You might know this as “The Drama Triangle” or “Triangle of Drama”. It gets referred to a lot in personal development circles. The triangle includes three roles: The Victim The Rescuer, and The Persecutor. The victim’s belief is “I’m not ok. You’re ok. I need someone to come and save me. I’m broken.” The Rescuer believes “I’m ok. You’re ok, as long as you do what I say.” The Persecutor believes “I’m ok. You’re not ok. You can’t do it right.” At a surface level, persecutors are often seen as...
Hold The Space (WT723)
The past few months I have been retraining and refreshing with the Gordon Training International for Leader Effectiveness Training. One of the trainers, Judith Richardson, from the Effectiveness Training Institute Australia (ETIA) made a point that I think is worth sharing. We were discussing Values Collisions. Judith said, “It is such a profound leadership skill to be able to hold the space for a team member or other person when you have a different set of values to that person”. This resonated with me completely. If you think back for a minute, when was the last time you had a different...