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It’s Okay to Say “But” (WT751)
If you’ve done any training with me, you’ll know that we teach you not to use the word “but” because it negates everything that goes before it. For example, you wouldn't say to your staff member, “I really like the work you're doing, but I’d like you to improve here”. All they will hear is “I’d like you to improve”. Instead of “but” use “and”. “I really like the work you're doing and I’d like you to improve here.” Now, there is an exception. The one time that it is okay and encouraged to say “but” is when you've just complained about something or you've been ungrateful about something. In...
Are You Delusional? (WT750)
Before you answer that question, here’s the definition of “delusional” from Vocabulary.com. “A delusional person believes things that couldn’t possibly be true. If you’re convinced that the microwave is attempting to control your thoughts, you are, sadly, delusional. Delusional comes from a Latin word meaning “deceiving”. So delusional thinking is kind of like deceiving yourself by believing outrageous things.” And this week, this is exactly what we want. I really love this concept from Nina Oberoi. Nina explains that to create your reality, you need to become delusional in your thinking....
Transaction Vs Transformation (WT749)
Last week Ross and I drove to Sydney to attend The Complete Leader conference by Lee Woodward. I love connecting with other leaders and learning tips and strategies for mindset and operations. On the way down and back we also listened to some audiobooks. One of the books, both by Dan Sullivan, was “The 4 C's Formula: Your Building Blocks of Growth: Commitment, Courage, Capability, and Confidence”. I loved listening to Dan as he explained the cycle for success. First you have to commit. You have to decide what it is you want. Secondly, you have to have courage. Courage gets you past the fear...
Feel The Fear (WT748)
Ever read the book, “Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway” by Susan Jeffers? It’s a great book to get you into action. Another book I’m listening to and reading is “Letting Go: The Pathway to Surrender” by David R. Hawkins. Hawkins encourages us to simply acknowledge our feelings and let them go. He also encourages us to let go of some limiting beliefs that may prevent us from doing just that, such as: “We only deserve things through hard work, struggle, sacrifice and effort” or “We don’t get anything for nothing”. Hawkins tells us that “Letting go involves being aware of a feeling, letting it...
A Hug and An Ear (WT747)
Every now and then we need a little reminder of the skills we’ve learnt that we’ve forgotten. I was talking with a past Leading Yourself and Leading Others graduate this week. We’ll call him Max. Max was sharing some challenges that he and his family were experiencing. Max is a “Driver” personality, so I know he’s focused on what he can “do”. I asked him, “How do you think you can support your family?” He replied, “I think I’m fairly supportive. I’m doing what I can to help relieve the burden (of tasks).” He then shared a story with me about how he had done his best to encourage one of his...
I Can’t Do That Because … (WT746)
Have you ever found yourself responding to a suggestion with “I can’t do that because …?” It’s such a powerful phrase that stops us from moving forward. One of my fabulous coaching clients, (we’ll call him Doug) had this incredible insight as we were discussing some potential actions he could take to grow his business. As I reflected back the suggestions he gave, his internal response was “I can’t do that because …” He was aware enough to mention it, so we had a juicy topic to coach around. “Hmm,” he pondered. “You know, this is something I do a lot.” “I hold myself back by looking for...
Can You Coach Yourself (WT745)
I would love for you to be able to answer that question with “Yes”. Being able to coach yourself is a such an important and necessary skill. This week I’ve had a few challenges and I’ve had to dig deep to coach myself. I’ve used “Ho’oponopono”. (I’m sorry, Please forgive me, Thank You, I Love You) to clear the energy. I’ve tapped along with The Tapping Solution App. I’ve meditated. I’ve visualised. I’ve journalled. I’ve asked myself empowering questions; what Noah St John calls “Afformations”. Instead of asking why a negative thing is happening, ask a powerful question, such as “Why am I so...
Today I’m Feeling Sad (WT744)
Today, I'm feeling sad. I'm sad for Brad.Brad is overwhelmed with his business. He doesn't have time. He's doing everything, even though he has people on his team. He doesn't know which way is up or down at the moment. He's tired, cranky and emotional.His wife reached out to me to help him. (We worked together a few years ago.) She introduced us via email. I offered to call him if he would reply with his phone number No reply. A few weeks passed. I called his wife. "He needs you", she cried. She too was feeling the effects of living with her stressed out husband. "I'll remind him again", she...
Change The Recipe (WT743)
This week’s thought is for all the learners. If you’re learning something new at the moment and feeling frustrated or beating yourself up because you’re not nailing it as quickly as you would like or you're losing your confidence and starting to feel hopeless and incompetent, maybe even worthless, then read on. Rather than getting annoyed at yourself and focusing on all the things you can’t do yet or calling yourself all kinds of negative names, instead think of what you are learning as if you were learning to cook a new recipe. A friend recommends a recipe. You taste the food at their place...
Would You Like A Hand To Hold Onto? (WT742)
Sometimes we just need someone to hold our hand. Ross and I were walking down the stairs to the beach at Dixon Park. The stairs were wet and slippery. A young toddler was doing her best to navigate holding onto the railing, which was too high for her to comfortably reach, all whilst holding onto her bucket and spade and step down the stairs all by herself. Her mum was on the sand with all the things mum’s need to take to the beach, along with baby number two in her arms. The toddler had made it most of the way down, however the last part was especially wet and sandy and the distress was...